"Ine ndimadana ndekha!" Momwe umadzikondera wekha kachiwiri?

Masiku ano zambiri, zonse magazini glossy ndi zolemba chikhalidwe, zovuta kukhalabe boma maganizo mawonekedwe. Man kuyambira ali wokakamiza mitundu yonse ya zithunzi ndi maloto, popanda zomwe mu zaka zambiri ozindikira, sangathe kuchita. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, kudzikonda mapindikidwe munthu umayamba kuona yokha mwa prism wa maganizo. Anapezerapo limagwirira sitingaleke, ndipo pali zowononga kudziletsa chidani.

"Ine ndimadana ndekha!" - Nthawi zambiri mawu amenewa angamvele osati kuchokera mkamwa wachinyamata, komanso munthu wamkulu, kudzidalira munthu. Izi si kudzikonda kapena kufuna Atchule mawu amenewa. vuto limeneli lili ndi sankangotanthauza mizu m'maganizo.

Nthawi zambiri mawu akuti "ine ndimadana ndekha ndi kufuna kufa" angamvele pa milomo ya maulemu, Zokhwimirapo, wokongola kapena wooneka bwino, choyamba kalasi wothamanga, manenjala bwino ndi zina zotero. D. Childs, syndrome chidani amakhudza anthu amene sachedwa mosalakwitsa ndiponso idealization okha. Mwachitsanzo, wophunzira ntchito, kuti nthawi kutsogolo, kuti ndi lalikulu kuphunzira ndi mayeso iliyonse - si vuto. Koma kodi timapunthwa kamodzi, kamodzi kulakwitsa - ndi dziko lonse likuphwasuka. Tiyerekeze kuti wophunzira Kupenda aliyense adzalandira mlingo pafupifupi m'malo alipidwa zisanu - imeneyi chingandithandize tsoka iye. Ndipo mapeto yekha adzakhala akuti: "Ndimadana ndekha, Ndine woluza" Wophunzira kwa nthawi yaitali kuchokera njanji, izo kuyamba kuchita kudzipatsa popemphera. Nthawi zina, pamene munthu sangathe paokha kutuluka chotchinga cha kudzikonda ankanyansidwa, iye akanatha kudzipha.

Kukhala m'dziko lino ndi chikondi nokha ndi ena, simuyenera idealize okha zinthu kapena anthu ena wamoyo. Ndipotu, munthu amene idealizes yokha, pa Pepala pang'ono adzaswa, chifukwa iye ayenera kusintha "sunali" pa ZINTHU MOYENERERA. Chifukwa udani - mkwiyo mwachizolowezi imatsogoleredwa mkati: Sindikumvetsetsa kukumana zolinga zake chomwecho, kotero ine ndimadana ndekha.

Bwinobwino zoopsa zotere kudana masomphenya m'molema yekha. munthuyo amayamba kutaya kuwonana ndi dziko lenileni, ndi kumizidwa kwathunthu ku madandaulo awo, athe kuyankha mokwanira kuti zilakolako ozungulira. mawu aliwonse kapena Mwachidule wamba zikuoneka otukwana ndi manyazi. Kuyesa kuthandiza iwo anatani irritably ndi azitengapo. Mukhoza kumva kuchokera kwa iye: "Tandisiyeni Ndikufuna kukhala ndekha! Monga inu Mukundizunguza! Ndimadana ndekha! "Moyo wayamba kuoneka kulimbana kosatha ndi dzikoli. Koma zoona pali kulimbana, "ichi Ine" ndi "munthu weniweni."

nkhani bwino si choncho kumene kudziona udani ntchito kuzibweretsa dziko kunja, ndi okondedwa. Zikatero, munthu anakhala wolamulira wankhanza kwa anzanu ndi achibale. Posankha ochitiridwayo, iwo amayamba kuononga makhalidwe ake. Komanso, zimakhalanso zovuta wavulala munthu aliyense wosalakwa, m'pamenenso timakhala tili ndondomekoyi. Mu njira iyi "kudziletsa kudana" ndi kunenetsa palokha ndipo okopa kunyada kwa awo "omva abwino."

Zizindikiro pamwamba kungayambitse mavuto aakulu yekha ndi ena. Choncho, muyenera kuwotcha abwino anu ndi kukonda "munthu" chifukwa chimene: zofooka zonse, kuchedwa, zolakwa kulankhula, kulemera owonjezera ndi zinthu zina. Ndipotu moyo wapatsidwa kamodzi, ndipo ndi bwino kukhala ndi maso kuti zimathandizadi zosiyanasiyana dziko.