8 makhalidwe abwino omwe anthu amawafunira mnzawo

Ngati mukufuna kuwonjezera chilakolako chanu chogonana, chokani pagalasi.

Bungwe la Insider linafunsa gulu la akatswiri pa chibwenzi ndi maubwenzi kuti alankhule makhalidwe abwino kwambiri kwa wokondedwa wanu, ndipo palibe amene adatchula zinthu zakuthupi. Inde, kuyang'ana zabwino n'kofunika, koma zikuwoneka ngati anthu akufunanso munthu wodzidalira komanso wabwino kwa ena.

Werengani kuti mudziwe kuti ndi makhalidwe otani omwe muyenera kuyesetsa kuti mukope chikondi.

Kudalira

"Ngakhale akudziŵa kapena ayi, koma kudalira ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri chomwe anthu akuchifunira mnzawo," akutero Michael McNulty, mphunzitsi wamkulu ndipo adatsimikizira odziwa za ubale ku Chicago Center for Communications.

Ndipotu, kafukufuku akutiuza kuti anthu amangofuna kuchoka ku misonkhano yachikondi kupita ku ubale wa nthawi yaitali pamene akuganiza kuti akhoza kudalira wokondedwa wawo. Kudalira mu ubale kumagwirizanitsidwa osati kokha moona mtima, komanso ndi ndalama zogwirizana. Ichi ndi lingaliro lodzipereka kwa wina ndi mzake. Mfundo ndi yakuti onse awiriwa ndi owona okha komanso mgwirizano wawo. Iwo ndi oona mtima pa zomwe akufuna, ndipo ali otsimikiza kugwira ntchito pazosiyana zawo pakufuna kuvomereza.

Ubwenzi

"Othandizana omwe amayesetsana kuti adziwane wina ndi mzake, amayamikirana wina ndi mzake, amayamikiranso komanso amayesetsa kuchitapo kanthu ndikuyesetsana wina ndi mzake, osati okonda okha, komanso abwenzi," akutero McNulty.

Izi zimaphatikizapo chithandizo, kuseketsa, chifundo komanso makhalidwe ena ambiri abwino. Ubwenzi umamangirira ndi kumangokhalira kukondana kwambiri, ndipo chikondi chimangothandiza okondana kuti awululidwe m'njira yatsopano nthawi iliyonse.

Kuvulazidwa

Hal Runkel, yemwe amagwira ntchito zachipatala komanso achibale komanso wolemba za "Sankhani Moyo Wanu Wakukula".

Kukonda nokha

"Timakonda anthu omwe angadziseke okha koma amakhala omasuka m'matupi awo ndipo amadzikonda okha omwe ali," inatero Runkel.

Chidaliro

"Ife timakonda anthu odalirika omwe angayesetse zomwe akufuna popanda kuwonetsa chinachake kwa wina," Runkel adanena.

Joseph Burgot, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso wolemba za Narcissus, yemwe mumamudziwa, akunena chimodzimodzi: "Kudzidalira kwambiri ndiko kugonana ngati sikulowetsa kudzikonda."

Tikakhala pa chibwenzi, timayika pazochitika zomwe timapanga pamodzi ndi munthu wina. Chifukwa anthu amamva kufunika koti agwirizane ndi munthu amene amadzidalira kwambiri ndikuwapangitsa kukhala omasuka.

Chidwi chachikulu

"Aliyense amene akufunsani mafunso anu payekha ndikuyesetsa kuti mumvetsetse bwino," akutero Burgo.

Tonsefe timafuna kuti tiwone kuti ndife okongola komanso osangalatsa kwa omwe tingakondane nawo. Kuwonjezera apo, munthu yemwe amasonyeza chidwi chenicheni pa ife, pachiyambi, akhoza kukhala womvetsetsa kwambiri mmbuyo.

Dr. Terry Orbuh (PhD), katswiri wa chiyanjano, pulofesa ku yunivesite ya Auckland ndi wolemba wa "New Search for Love: 6 Njira Zosavuta za Ubale Watsopano ndi Wachimwemwe" amavomereza ndi mfundo iyi ndipo akuti: "Ngati nthawi zonse mumagula" kugulitsa " , Mukuwoneka kuti ndinu wodzikonda nokha, mukhoza kumva kuti mukufunikira "kugulitsa" nokha kwa mnzanuyo, komatu, ngati mupitiliza kulankhula za inu nokha, mumachotsa munthu wina. Ubale, ngakhale pachiyambi, ukupereka ndi kuvomereza. Omwe amatsutsana nawo omwe amafunsa mafunso okhudza iwo, ndiyeno amamvetsera mwatcheru ku mayankho, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti ali ndi chidwi, amawakonda, monga aliyense, amafunadi kuwadziwa.

Zosangalatsa

"Kunyada kumapangitsa mgwirizano uliwonse ndi msonkhano uliwonse uli bwino," akutero Orbukh.

Ndizosangalatsa kwambiri mukakhala wokondwa, ndipo ndizosangalatsa kukhala ndi munthu amene amakonda kuseka komanso amasangalala kwambiri. Ngati wina ali wovuta kwambiri, zikuwoneka kuti muyenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti mukhale naye. Koma zimakhala zophweka kwambiri mukangoseka palimodzi.

Koma Orbukh amachenjezanso anthu kuti nthawi zina amayesetsa molimbika: "Musamadzichepetsere, mwachitsanzo, kuseketsa ntchito yanu yosankhidwa kapena banja lanu."

Chiyembekezo

"Timakopeka ndi anthu omwe ali okhutira ndi otsimikiza, akhoza kuseka ndi kumwetulira," akutero Orbukh.

Kusayeruzika kumapangitsa munthu kukhala wosayenerera, ndipo tikakhala ndi anthu omwe ali ndi mphamvu zoipa (kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa), izi zimakhudza maganizo athu ndi chiyembekezo chathu m'moyo komanso mwachangu. Choncho, tikufuna kukhala ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi chiyembekezo, akuganizira zomwe zili zabwino ndipo amadziwa momwe angakhalire wabwino nthawi zambiri.