Chikondi choyamba cha kusukulu

Achinyamata ambiri a msinkhu wa sukulu amakumana ndi oyamba, ndipo amawoneka ngati iwo, chikondi chenicheni. Okalamba nthawi zambiri amadziyerekezera kuti samvetsa izi, ndizosautsa kunyalanyaza ubusa waubwana. Komabe, mwamuna ndi mkazi aliyense adakumananso ndi maganizo amenewa, koma anabisala mumtima mwathu. Mwinamwake izi ndi chifukwa chikondi ichi sichinakwaniritsidwe.

Nthawi zina zimakhala zosavuta kukhulupirira m'chikondi, makamaka ngati nkhani ya kuusa moyo ndi yachiwiri. Wachilendo, koma ali mwa anthu oterewa ndipo amakondana ndi ana a sukulu ndikuwona chikondi chenicheni ndi chenicheni. Iwo akhoza kukhala aphunzitsi mu bungwe la maphunziro, abwenzi a amayi anga kapena oyandikana nawo pabwalo. M'malo mwake, kupembedza kotere sikuli kosavuta kutcha chikondi - ndiko kupembedza koyenera.

Koma zilizonse, ndipo kumverera uku kumakula kwambiri tsiku lililonse likadutsa, pamutu ndiye munthu ameneyu - ndipo salinso mabuku ndi maphunziro. Maganizo amasintha kangapo patsiku: ndizoipa kwambiri kuti moyo si wabwino, koma ndi zabwino kuti solo imangoyimba! Nthawi zina chikondi chimasokonezeka ndi kukhumudwa kwakukulu, ndipo malingaliro achichepere a msinkhu sangathe kuthana ndi mayesero. Kutha koopsa kwa maubwenzi, nthawi zina kunayamba, ndipo nthawi zambiri - platonic, mwinamwake kudzipha. Ndicho chimene chili choyenera kumenyera makolo ndi okonda.

Komabe, chikondi choyamba cha sukulu chimakhalabe mu moyo kwamuyaya. Mungathe kukonda munthu kwa masabata angapo, koma pazifukwa zina adzalandira malo mu mtima mwanu moyo wake wonse. Komabe, chikondi cha sukulu sichimafalikira kukhala mgwirizano wa banja.

Kodi makolo ayenera kuchita chiyani pazochitikazi? Kawiri kawiri, iwo amangoyamba mantha kuti mwana wawo wa zaka khumi ndi zitatu watengedwera ndi mwamuna wazaka makumi atatu, ndipo yesetsani njira iliyonse kuti amuletse kuyesera kulankhula za iye. Pankhaniyi, mtsikanayo akuyamba kuyankhula za izo ndi aliyense mzere, koma osati ndi makolo ake. Izi zikudzaza ndi mfundo yakuti iye akhoza kukhala ndi mavuto pambuyo poti changu chake chadutsa: padzakhala zokambirana m'deralo, zomwe zingathetsedwe ndi miseche. Choncho, ngati muwona kuti mwana wanu watengedwera ndi winawake ali wamng'ono, musamusiye yekha ndi zochitika zake, koma mosiyana, yesetsani kumuthandiza ndi kumuthandiza. Ndikhulupirire, zokondweretsazi zimapita mwamsanga, ndipo mudzaseka pambuyo ponse palimodzi ndikukumbukira tsiku losagona ndi misonzi yowawa!

Kawirikawiri chikondi cha sukulu chimafulumira , komabe, nkhani iliyonse iyenera kuganiziridwa mosiyana. Ngati munthu wotseguka ndi wokondana naye ali m'chikondi, zimakhala zosavuta kuti adziŵe kuti chinthu chokhumba chikugwira ntchito. Ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe zingakhalire zopweteka, iye adzapeza mphamvu kuti asamawonetse izi kwa ena. Umu ndi mmene chikondi cha sukulu chimatha pang'onopang'ono, ndipo moyo umakhala wofanana.

Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kwa iwo omwe ali otsegulira, ndiko kuti, omwe sakonda kulankhulana. Kaŵirikaŵiri zonse zopweteka perenashivayut mwa iwo okha, chifukwa cha kusintha ndi chikhalidwe, nthawi zambiri kutali ndi zabwino. Ngati ndinu kholo ndipo mumadziwa kuti mwana wanu akubisala, muyenera kupeza njira yowonjezera nokha, chifukwa ngakhale inu mumakhala kovuta kuti azigawana nawo. Yesetsani kumvetsera ndipo nthawi zambiri muziwakonda, mosasamala kanthu momwe muli otanganidwa.

Kwa ana ena, chikondi cha sukulu chimatha zaka zingapo. Iwo, ndithudi, akhoza kutengeka ndi chilakolako china pa nthawi ino, koma nthawizonse akhale owona kwa munthu mmodzi yekha. Ndipo pali zochitika (zosakwanira mokwanira), pamene chikondi choyamba chimakhala mumtima mwamuyaya. Izi ndizo anthu omwe amamva bwino komanso okoma mtima omwe amadziwa kuti ndi ovuta kukanidwa, kotero amalola munthu amene amawakonda pamoyo wawo.

Munthu aliyense ali ndi maganizo ake, maganizo ake, malingaliro ake a dziko. Zimakhala zabwino ngati kumverera koyamba kumachoka mumdima ndi chisangalalo mu moyo, kukumbukira sikumasokoneza ndikukupangitsani kukhala wolakwitsa, koma mosangalala mukondweretse mtima. Chifukwa chake, muyenera kukhala wofatsa pa nthawi, pamene munthu wamkulu akudziwa bwino kuti alibe chiyanjano chilichonse kuti asakhumudwitse mwanayo.