Diffidence. M'mene tingagonjetsere?

Anthu ambiri masiku ano ali ndi vuto pamene sakhudzidwa okha. Chifukwa cha ichi, iwo sangakhoze kupita ku koleji kapena kupeza ntchito wolakalakika - onse chifukwa amadziona kusadalira. Iwo nthawizonse ndikuganiza kuti angayembekezere kulephera lina, kuti iwo adzakhala anakana chifukwa adani awo bwino ndi wamphamvu. Choncho, iwo kuletsa ndewu ndi kugonja, popanda kupanga sitepe pang'ono kwa loto lake. Ndipotu zamaganizo palibe chinthu monga "chikhulupiriro" kapena "kusadalira", munthuyo amaika sitampu. Izi zidalira pa chikhulupiriro mwa inueni, ngati mukuganiza kuti muli zonse bwino, ndiye muli ndi zabwino ndi mkulu kudzidalira. Komabe, pali anthu amene amachita manyazi okha, malingaliro awo, malingaliro ndi maganizo, motero, odzikayikira iwo bwino kwambiri.

Khalidwe la munthu aliyense ali osiyana, kotero ena a wrestlers moyo ndi kukhulupirira kuti zonse ndi zotheka kuti apindule, pamene ena amaopa kuti ngakhale phazi limodzi kwa loto lake, kotero iwo samasankha kuchita chilichonse. The mwayi mu moyo uno, onse ngofanana, koma munthu akhoza kuteteza ufulu wawo kuntchito, ngakhale mwina sadziwa icho. Ndi ena kuchita ntchito zonse zimene anapatsidwa akulu ndi theka lina anzake. Choncho muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti chikhulupiriro ndi odzikayikira mbali yofunika kwambiri pa moyo. Ndipo mwamsanga kuyamba kusintha makhalidwe ena mwa iwo okha, ndipo chimauza nokha kuti mukhoza ndipo inu mukhoza kuchita izo, mofulumira mudzatha kukonzekera kulikonse.

Ndicho chifukwa ambiri akudabwa mmene tingagonjetsere odzikayikira. Ena kutembenukira kwa zamaganizo ndipo mankhwala okwera mtengo; kusintha zina mchikakamizo cha zochitika zilizonse zofunika pa moyo wawo. Mwachitsanzo, wodzichepetsa ndi osatetezeka iye akuona kuti anapeza chimwemwe chawo - kotero iye amakhala wodzidalira ndi ufulu wodzilamulira wa maganizo ndi malingaliro ena.

Pali anthu amene akuvutika ndi njakata moyo. Kodi iwo apindule chinachake, iwo akhoza kunena kuti nokha, "Ine ndine wabwino," koma pamene agwidwa ndi vuto linalake, olimba okha, iwo onse oipa ndiponso kuti musalefuke. Ndi bwino kupempha thandizo la dokotala kapena kuwerenga mabuku othandiza pa nkhaniyi. Pa Intaneti pali mabuku ambiri, amene mwangwiro limafotokoza milandu osiyana, ndipo mukhoza kupeza malangizo othandiza pa mmene kuchotsa odzikayikira.

Apa mfundo yosavuta amene sakudziwa mmene tingagonjetsere odzikayikira:

- Nthawi zambiri kumvera wabwino ndi wokoma nyimbo. Zikuthandizani inu nthawizonse mwetulirani ndi kuyiwala za mavuto awo. Pamene inu kumverera bwino ndi inu kanthu kazivutitsa anthu yomweyo mungazindikire ndi amakukondani. Ndipotu kwambiri wokoma kucheza ndi gay mu ndi wansangala munthu kuposa ndi inabala amene akuyesa kuti ali kanthu.

- kuganiza za chizolowezi ndi kumupatsa nthawi yake yonse yopuma. Ngati inu kulemba ndakatulo kapena ankalemba music, kufalitsa zolengedwa wanu pachionetsero (kungakhale anonymous). Onani zimene anthu ena amanena zokhudza ntchito yanu, zimathandiza kuti mukukhulupirira mwa iwo okha. Monga musaiwale kuti pa zonse sizimamukondweretsa aliyense!

- kumwetulira ndi kuchita ntchito zabwino. Zimenezi zimachititsa kuti anthu azikhulupirira kuti inu ndi zofunika munthu pa dziko lino amakukondani, inu akuyembekeza. Ndipotu, ngati inu kuthandiza mlendo, inu basi bwino ndipo mukufuna kuphunzira zimenezi chinachake ndi timudziwe bwino. Umo ndi momwe inu anthu adzakhala anakoka, ngati inu kukhala wokoma mtima ndi zambiri zosangalatsa.

chidutswa malangizo ena ofunika kwambiri: simuyankhula za mavuto awo ndi aliyense. Anthu ndi osiyanasiyana: ena monga kumvera, koma ena akusangalala. Pali angapo amene akhoza kwenikweni kukuthandizani. Yesetsani ndi okhawo amene alidi pafupi nanu ndi munthu mumamukhulupirira 100%. anthu umenewu mudzapeza mfundo yoyenera, mudzatha kuthandiza ndi kuonetsetsa kuti zonse zidzakhala bwino.