Immediacy ndi akulembayo. Kodi ndi motani kukhala nokha?

Nthawi zambiri timagwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "akulembayo" zolankhula zathu. Kodi izo mwa mfundo maganizo view kusiyana ndi khalidwe ndi ankaikira wina? Tsopano kutchereza mawu awa, komanso kuwadziwa pa zitsanzo. Mwina munthu adzatsegula khalidwe limeneli okha kapena okondedwa awo.

Chiphunzitso ambiri tanthauzo limeneli,

khalidwe lachibadwa kuti munthu amachita zimene Iye akufuna pa nthawi inayake, ndipo palibe chowonjezera. Izi ndi zina mwa nyama ndi ana, nchifukwa chake tonse osiririka anthu ndipo ena. Ndi zaka, ichi "sharpness" ndi khalidwe akanthawi akupita, ndi mu malo ake amabwera mapulani kugonjera ndandanda (wake kapena munthu wina), ndipo ichi, malinga zamaganizo, iye udzaononga aliyense payekha. Iwo amafanizira ndi kutha kwa akulembayo ndi a psychopathology za tsiku ndi tsiku, ndi mawu ntchito kuno osati m'lingaliro zachipatala, koma mu chikhalidwe. N'chifukwa chake ndikofunika mu zaka okhwima, "kumbukirani," monganso mmene mwana, pamene maganizo ndi zochita zanu anatsogolera akulembayo. Kodi kwambiri yeniyeni ndi yolondola kuwonetsera kwa nokha ndi dziko mumtima, osati papezeka mfundo chikhalidwe.

Kodi ndi chifukwa chiyani kuletsedwa akulembayo

Ndili wamng'ono kwambiri, makolo athu ndiponso aphunzitsi sukulu ya mkaka zimatiphunzitsa zabwino ndi zoipa. Ife amaletsa mochedwa, zakudya m'thupi phala, kama awo ndi kuvala zinthu zina zimene ife zambiri sindimakonda. Pankhaniyi, kusamvera pang'ono pa mbali ya mwana kwambiri kuti kulangidwa, ndipo lino, zingathandize kuti chitukuko cha mantha. Mantha mabasi ife mu chitukuko kudziwitsa winayo zoona chimodzimodzi, chifukwa chakuti midadada akulembayo. Kodi oipa, ndipo mwa njira imeneyi simungathe kulera ana, madokotala aphunzira osati kale. Komabe, mu nkhani iyi, pali mfundo zina zabwino zambiri, popeza aliyense wa ife - mbali ya dera limene malamulo ndiponso mfundo ndi ofala, ndipo ngati aliyense adzachita akufunira wake akanthawi, dziko kupita misala. Komabe, izi ndi kukambirana nzeru zaumunthu, ndipo tsopano tidzayesetsa kukhala womasuka pang'ono, otuluka zilipo.

Kusiya chimango cha anthu

Taganizirani kuti ziletso zonse, zimene zokhudza mu malingaliro a munthu aliyense, anali ndi ubwana wake. Tsopano inu - zonse akuluakulu munthu, choncho iwo mukhoza bwinobwino kuiwala. Zikutikhudza kuti adzatiuza ena ngati tiphunzira kanthu makamaka ngati mwana tinali anaopseza poopa manyazi, chifukwa chimene oletsedwa akulembayo. Kodi izi ngati si kudwala, amene akutiletsa wamoyo? Motsimikizira kotheratu tikhoza kunena kuti mwamtheradi anthu onse ndi zimene mumachita ndiponso khalidwe lake. kupusa aliyense wachita inu mu malo onse, ndingobwerera pa cholemba yaifupi, koma mkati mphindi zonsezi, ndipo makamaka zidzaiwalika. Choncho zinthu momasuka, sukhala mwana, kumbukirani kuti tikukhala kamodzi kokha.

Kuphunzira kukhala mfulu

Development wa akulembayo mu akula zichitike m'njira zosiyanasiyana, ndipo zimadalira maonekedwe a psyche wanu. Wina nokha ndi kuwerengera, ganizirani mfundo yakuti kale ali free, ndipo potsiriza kupanga chinachake chimene poyamba sanayese n'komwe. anthu ena sangakhoze kukhala amphamvu, ndipo iwo amafuna thandizo akatswiri kuti mutsegule. Mulimonsemo, tiyenera kukumbukira kuti pali akulembayo ya chikomokere, ndi akulembayo cha chikumbumtima ndipo khalidwe lachibadwa. Aliyense akuti wotsatira motere pa Malemba, chotero, kusintha maganizo onse a anu, kulola yekha kukhala nokha, inu kukhala munthu wosiyana. Ndipo, nthawi zambiri, moyo wanu wonse lidzasinthidwa, ndipo mwina adzasintha kopambana.