Non-wapakamwa manja ndi matanthauzo

Nthawi zina mawu anthu sizikugwirizana zikhulupiriro zawo woona ndi zolinga. Kumvetsa zimene kwenikweni kuganiza mnzanuyo kudzakuthandizani manja si mawu. Pang'ono tcheru kwambiri pa kugonana. Izi adzalola kuti mudziwe zambiri kuposa Ndikufuna pochitika mdani.

Kodi izi ndi zoona?

Anthu ambiri amakayikira zimenezi ndi nkhani monga kulankhulana si mawu. Manja, nkhope amaoneka kuti chinthu chachibadwidwe ndi umakaniko. Koma zinapatsidwa mfundo imeneyi, tikhoza kulankhula za limagwirira sanali wapakamwa a Kudziwa. Zamaganizo mwathera kwambiri za ntchito ya sayansi nkhani. Koma ngati okayikira ndi izi si mkangano, kuchita zi- palokha ndi okwanira. Mwachitsanzo, kuphunzira kumvetsa maganizo a okondedwa awo, ndipo kenako mudzatha kuona kupyolera akunja.

Kumene, sitiyenera kuiwala kuti pali mwaiwala zimene malamulo. Motero, munthu angachite izi kapena kuti malo chabe mwa mphamvu ya chizolowezi. Komanso, n'zotheka kuti iye sanali bwino kapena ndi zovala wovuta. khalidwe la munthu akhoza kukhala ndi chidwi amadza kutentha. Choncho, sitiyenera kunyozera udindo kulankhulana si mawu. Komabe, musanasankhe mfundo yomaliza, tiyenera kuyang'ana kwambiri pa zinthu zimene kukambirana chikuchitika.

Kodi manja m'matumba wake

Nthawi zambiri Tingaone monga munthu pa kucheza ndi manja ake mu matumba ake. Wina akuganiza kusonyeza khalidwe loipa. Komanso, usapeputse n'zotheka kuti munthu pulayimale mazira, pamene zinthu wovuta kutentha. Komabe, ngati tikambirana sanali wapakamwa chinenero thupi, mungathe mfundo zotsatirazi:

• Manja zobisika mu matumba wake, zingasonyeze ndende kwambiri. Munthu malo angakhale chinachake kuganizira kapena kumanga utheke. Komabe, kukhala kupotokera pang'ono kapena mpukutu kwa chidendene kuti chala.
• mawu olembedwa ina kuchita zimenezi - ndi kusowa chochita. Mwachitsanzo, pa misonkhano yaitali kapena kuti misonkhano ya anthu yolembedwa zambiri kuyenda, manja ake mu matumba ake chifukwa iwe sangachoke chochitika, koma kanthu chidwi zikuchitika pa izo. Choncho ngati mnzanu watenga malo ofanana, mukhoza kuthetsa foni kapena kusamusa izo pa njanji zambiri zosangalatsa.
• Ngati manja ndi m'matumba wake kubisa womvera ndipo wolankhulayo, kungasonyeze kusaona mtima wake. Mankhwalawa ndi dzanja ndikupatseni bodza, koma chifukwa anthu mwachibadwa kuwabisa kotero mulibe anaganiza zolinga zake.
• Kapenanso, manja m'matumba tinganene za maganizo chabe interlocutor wanu. Iye ayenera kuti alibe chidwi kapena sakufuna kuchita zimene akumuuza. Koma chifukwa ali, ndithudi, kudzadalira msinkhu wanu wa ulamuliro.
• Ngati tikulingalira manja sanali wapakamwa amuna, mu chiyanjano ndi madona manja zobisika trouser m'thumba (mathalauza basi!) Kukambirana nkhani amakonda ndi libido. Koma tikakhala ndi anthu kugonana awo, amasonyeza mphamvu ndi ufulu.

kusonyeza ulemu

Kudziwa manja a popanda mawu n'komwe, mukhoza kwambiri moyo wosalira wanu, chifukwa iwo angagwiritsidwe ntchito kumvetsa zolinga woona wa interlocutor ndi zogwirizana inu. Mwachitsanzo, ngati munthu akuyesera kuti asonyeze azidzidalira, komanso ukulu ndi mphamvu pa inu, tikhoza kuphunzira zinthu zotsatirazi:

• munthu aika manja kumbuyo kwake, puffing kunja pamtima patsogolo. Motero, iye amayesetsa kukhala olimba mtima wake.
• Manja amangotchula anaponya matumba, ndipo thupi mochititsatu kaso omasuka. Choncho munthu akuyesera bwanji kuti mumasamala za iye, ndi uninteresting.
• Nthawi zina wopondereza munthu akhoza kutenga maganizo kumbuyo, mikono yake anawoloka pamtima ndi kukoka mwayigwira. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ngakhale pofuna kudziteteza, koma amamva ubwino pa inu.

mogwirizana chogwirika

Poganizira manja sanali mawu, ayenera kupereka ulemu wapadera kwa mogwirizana ndi chogwirika ndi interlocutor lapansi. Nde tikhoza kulankhula za izi:

• Ngati msonkhano ndi mnzanu kapena wachibale inu akukumbatirana, kanthawi kukhudzana ayenera kutenga osaposa msonkho lodabwitsa.
• Kukumbatirana zikutanthauza kuti anthu kutopa okondwa kwambiri kukuwonani inu. Komabe, ngati kukhudzana ndi wamphamvu kwambiri, ndipo inu kwenikweni kutsamwa pa izo, n'zotheka ndithu kuti munthu kungofuna kuti chimwemwe kuona inu.
• Ngati, pamene kukumbatira wa mwamuna amachitira nkhawa ndi mumamasuka, akulankhula za kulemekeza inu.
• Ngati mwakumana ndi munthu woyamba akutsegula dzanja lake kwa kugwirana chanza, ndi amalankhula mtima wamphamvu inu.
• Ngati, mu kugwirana chanza munthu Sadadzipangire kwa dzanja, yandikira kwa dzanja la Limanenanso za mtima wake zolakwika. Izo zinali choncho mu masiku a Roma anali kufufuzidwa ngati mu dzenje mnzake lupanga.
• Ngati munthu agwedeza dzanja kwanu clasps kapena manja awiri, kugwedeza mwamphamvu (mwinamwake kukuchititsani kusapeza), izo Likuonetseranso chimwemwe moona mtima atakumana inu.
• Ngati, mu kugwirana chanza mukuona kuti dzanja lanu interlocutor waulesi, ndi kukambirana zipatso sachiza, chifukwa si kukhazikitsidwa funsani inu.
• Ngati munthu wapatuka dzanja lake , kanjedza pansi pa muyeso wa pa chikumbumtima, amayamba kudandaula.
• Pat pa nsana ndi Mzimu waubwenzi. Komanso, kuchita zimenezi kungasonyeze mphamvu ya interlocutor ndi wofunitsitsa kuthandiza.
• Samalani anthu amene pokambirana akathyole inu ndi mkono. kumverera kwanu kusakhulupirirana, nawonso kuyesa kupeza inu kwa iye, ndipo ngakhale insinuate kuti angakhale mnzanu wodalirika. Koma kuchita zimenezi si nthawi zonse moona mtima, chifukwa ngati njira maganizo ntchito kawirikawiri anthu ndi zolinga zadyera.

Kodi kuzindikira chisoni

Vuto lina lalikulu kugwirizana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi zosiyana - kukhulupirirana ili. Nthawi zina kuposa mawu akhoza kundiuza kulankhulana si mawu. Manja omwe akusonyeza chifundo, zotsatirazi:

• Gleam pamaso pake - si nthano. Munthu akukumana chifundo, ndithudi, zikuwoneka pang'ono osiyana, ndi diso umakhala hydrated. Komanso, ana adzakhala penapake kukodzedwa.
• anthu pokopeka pa mlingo chikumbumtima pofuna kukondweretsa. Choncho, pa misonkhano, akuchita mwai zosiyanasiyana ndi maonekedwe awo: aligns kumbuyo, imakoka m'mimba, limakuwongola tsitsi lake.
• Amuna ndi akazi akuyesera kuti Atchule ndi maonekedwe kugonana. Izi akhoza kuika zala pa lamba wa biriwita, miyendo lonse-akonzedwa, lili losamangidwa bwino malo batani pamwamba pa malaya ake.
• Yogwira manja (nthawi zina zosayenera) angathe kutumikira monga chizindikiro cha chisoni. chakuti munthu m'chikondi zambiri kutaya kulamulira zochita zawo.
• Unikani zolinga za interlocutor kungakhale motsogozedwa maso ake. Ngati iye akuyang'ana m'maso, pali chifukwa kuti iye amakukondani monga munthu. Ndipo taonani, kuthamangathamanga thupi, iye sakunena za koposa chilakolako chogonana.
• Ngati munthu wa anyamata mowirikiza kuyesera kuyandikira, kapena pansi napemphera monyenga mawu alionse, kukukhudzani, palibe chikaiko sympathies wake.

kusowa chidwi

Nthawi zina munthu apitirira nkhani, osadziwa kuti chinacho ndi uninteresting mwamtheradi. Kuthandiza kulankhulana si mawu. Manja kusonyeza mphwayi, ali motere:

• Ngati munthu wina mitanda manja ake, iye mwachibadwa atseka pa inu. Mumasamala za iye mwina, kapena zosasangalatsa.
• Onani kumene maganizo interlocutor anatumiza. Ngati iye amayang'ana kulikonse, koma osati pa nkhope yanu, m'pofunika kumaliza zokambirana.
• Ngati munthu akufuna kuthetsa nkhaniyo ndi kupita, izo adzakupatsani glancing Nthawi zonse maso ake. Komanso kuvala nsapato zake zikhoza yalunjika chitseko.

nkhope

Kwambiri tinganene chiyani za munthu ndi maganizo ake poona nkhope yake. Non-wapakamwa manja, kusinkhasinkha za nkhope, akhoza kuyankhula za izi:

• mwapang'ono maso ndi milomo pursed kulankhula za okwiya;
• zadabwitsa ndi maso lonse zikutanthauza anadabwa;
• mu mkhalidwe milomo mantha anatambasula lonse, ndi ngodya awo adatchithisira;
• chimwemwe amakhala ndi maso bata ndi pang'ono anakweza ngodya m'kamwa mwake;
• zachisoni munthu kumabweretsa nsidze wake pamodzi ndi pansi pa mphambano za milomo.

akumvekera

The njira yaikulu ya akupereka mauthenga - chabe. manja popanda mawu n'komwe angasonyeze kuti interviewee akuyesera kubisa. No zochepa nkhani kungakhale kamvekedwe kuti akhoza kukuuzani zotsatirazi:

• kudya ndi kosagwirizana mu malankhulidwe bata limasonyeza chisangalalo chachikulu;
• chikhulupiriro ndi mokweza kukambirana umboni changu yogwira;
• ngati munthu anena aulesi, kutsitsa kamvekedwe ka mapeto a mawu, ndi kutopa;
• anayeza ndi mawu odekha, amene amakhala ndi mawu zonse, umboni wa kudzikuza kwa interlocutor ya;
• Imani okhazikika kulankhula Zolakwika mwangozi amasonyeza mantha ndi kusowa chikhulupiriro.

Zizindikiro za mabodza

Podziŵa kufunika kwa manja sanali kumukakamiza kuti angazindikire mabodza interlocutors. Choncho, kulabadira mfundo zotsatirazi:

• yaitali nthawi kuyamba mawu kapena Kuimaima kawirikawiri;
• asymmetry mu minofu nkhope;
• masekondi oposa 10 si m'malo ndi nkhope;
• mtima uka mochedwa ndipo sikunafanane zili mawu;
• anatambasula kumwetulira kuti si kulenga n'njokhota ndi yopapatiza mzere wa milomo;
• kusowa kwa diso kukhudzana;
• zikugwira ntchito manja ndi miyendo (pogogoda, kukokana) ndi milomo zakusyvanie;
• Yesetsani gesticulations mu cheke;
• kupuma katundu ndi bwino nthawi zonse kamvekedwe ka mawu;
• chatsekedwa imani manja anawoloka ndi miyendo, ndipo anawerama mmbuyo;
• akusisita mphuno kapena m'ma (zingakhale ndi afterthought ndipo sakonda noticeable);
• kumanja (mwa mawu a chinenero thupi) ndi yogwira kuposa kumanzere;
• mtima akukokomeza ndi manja;
• pafupipafupi kuphethira.

mtunda

Poganizira njira sanali wapakamwa la manja, sitingathe kunena za mpikisano, imene anthu nthaŵi zina. Choncho, ambiri amavomereza magawo izi amaonedwa:

• hafu mita - ndi mtunda kwambiri pakati okondedwa awo amene ali mu ubale wokhulupilirana;
• ku 0,5 kuti 1.5 mamita - mtunda izi crony kulankhulana lotha;
• 1.5-3.5 mamita - mtunda chikhalidwe kuti ndi yabwino mgwirizano pakati pa alendo, komanso pa nkhani ya bizinezi;
• 3,7 mamita - ndi mtunda onse kumene ntchito umachitika pamaso pa gulu lalikulu.

Zothandiza kudziwa lililonse

Max Egger mwini amathandiza kwambiri maphunziro a funso limeneli, monga njira manja si mawu. Iye anayamba dongosolo 75 chizindikiro, kwa akuluakulu ndi izi:

• gulu la Adamu apulo amasonyeza kusangalala kapena interlocutor kuti akunena zoona;
• ngati manja ali kukhudzana ndi chinthu chilichonse, akuti njakata;
• ngati munthu stroking chibwano wake, akulingalira kupereka;
• zakusyvanie chala, pensulo kapena akachisi zikutanthauza kuti munthu Ziwerengero;
• stroking kumbuyo kwa khosi ndi mtima kapena mantha inu;
• ngati munthu rubs manja ake, iye amafuna ubwino;
• masokosi ngati mapazi popanda dzanja munthu akuona okuposani.

Pomaliza

Ngati mukufuna kudziwa zambiri kuposa zimene inu mukuti, m'pofunika kuphunzira chinenero chamanja. kulankhulana Non-wapakamwa n'kovuta, choncho tinganene kuti cholinga kwambiri. Komabe, musaiwale kuti manja ena akhoza kugwirizana ndi bwino kapena mphamvu kunja.