Kodi kukhala ndi mowa ndi?

Kodi kukhala ndi mowa ndi? Popeza kuyambitsa mowa akazi ambiri atadzifunsa funso, koma nthawi zambiri sanayankhidwe. Ndipo kodi inu mumawatcha moyo kukhala m'gulu la munthu kuchepa, amene ali lamulo limodzi lokha - kuledzera? Mu kuwerenga maganizo pali lingaliro la "codependent" - munthu amene ali ndi mowa, amene amaona abale ake, kunena naye ndi chikondi ndi kuyesa kuwamvetsetsa. mkazi Codependent nthawi zonse kufotokozera ndekha lotsatira spree mwamuna wotopa, yotopetsa, mavuto kuntchito, kapena, Tikawonetsetsa holide, chimwemwe ...

Mosadziwa, anthu awa sizikugwira ntchito yolimbana ndi matenda, ndipo pa iye. chilakolako lawo lofuna kuchotsa pafupi kuzunzika ndi kumuthandiza kubwerera pa njira yoyenera okha pofuna kukwaniritsa zolinga vuto. Kodi munthu yozungulira kusiya zizolowezi zawo, kupirira kusapeza, kusintha makhalidwe, ngati nthawi zonse munthu wapafupi amene kukhululukira, kumvetsetsa ndi kuthetsa mavuto onse?

Kuti tiyankhe funsoli, momwe tingakhalire ndi mowa, inu muyenera kumvetsa ngati mukufuna kuchita kukakhala naye. Ngati banja ana amene akukhudzidwa ndi khalidwe la bambo ake, mwina yabwino yothetsera akanati akutsanzikana ndi munthu woteroyo. Mulimonsemo, nthawi iliyonse aliyense, ndipo okha ophunzira kusankha - kukhala limodzi kapena padera. Ngati ntchito pamodzi, ndiye pali ndondomeko zimene zingatithandize kusintha zinthu.

Gawo 1: asale codependency. Muyenera kumvetsa zimene nkhawa yanu ndi chikhululukiro amathandiza aliyense. Kumene, zina zabwino kukhala ochitiridwayo, akulankhula za "mtanda wake" kuti muli moyo, koma ngati ntchito imeneyi kwenikweni funso wanu, momwe tingakhalire ndi mwamuna wake chidakwa, kodi osadzuka - ankapitako moyo ngati.

Gawo 2: Pezani okuchirikizani kunja banja. Muyenera kukhala a mtundu wina kufalikira (ABWENZI, ABALE) amene thandizo adzadutsa mavuto a kulimbana ndi uchidakwa okondedwa. The lofunika kwambiri adzathandiza anthu amene ali mwini bwino zinachitikira kuthana vuto limeneli. Ngati nkotheka, kuyenda pa zokambirana gulu co-amadalira.

Khwerero 3: Ikani zinthu naye. Ngati inu kwenikweni adanyerezera kusanduza moyo wanga, kuyembekezera kanthu, m'pofunika kuyamba miniti. Ikani mwamuna wake kuti ngati akufuna banja, ayenera yomweyo anayamba mankhwala, chifukwa ali ndi chidakwa, inu salinso akufuna. Ngati anthu safuna thandizo kapena ayi kumwa nokha ndiye kuopseza ake ayenera kuchita - ndingozisiya.

Gawo 4: Ganizirani njira. Pamodzi ndi mwamuna wake kukonzekera zingapo zimene mungachite - kopita kapena ndani kuti thandizo.

Gawo 5: kuthetsa katundu owonjezera udindo. Inu simungakhoze kukhala moyo wa munthu wina. Only iye akafuna kusankha: banja kapena mowa. Ndipo kusankha izi chikoka sindingakhoze. Ngati munthu anasankha kutumikira - wanu sanali wolakwa.

Gawo 6: kumvetsa nokha. Ngati muli pa chibwenzi, ndiye, pa zifukwa zina, iwo zidzafunika. Bwino kapena mosadziwa, inu yopezera kwa iwo mapindu ena okha. Mwina ukwati ndi ofooka, amadalira munthu, imakukhudzirani wamphamvu kwambiri bwino, mfulu. Ngati izi ziri zoona, taganizirani zimene njira zina akhoza kukwaniritsa kumverera komweko ndi kuswa kudzidalira. Mwina tiyenera kusintha ntchito kapena zinthu zatsopano?

Kodi kuthana ndi mowa ndi? Choyamba, kudziwa kuti nkhondo siziyenera kuchitika kwa munthu, ndi matenda. Ndipo womenya chachikulu zikhale monga mwini yozungulira. Imani kumbali ya wake wokondedwa, amene adanyerezera kusanduza moyo wawo, kukhala ndi chisankho, musalole manyazi napereka lochedwa, ndiyeno funso cha mmene tiyenera kukhalira ndi chidakwa, konse yanthanda pa banja lanu.