N'chifukwa chiyani tiyenera kukhala kopanda athanzi: 5 Zifukwa

M'dziko lathu, pali chibaba kuti anthu umodzi kumva kuwapatula womvetsa chisoni. Koma zamaganizo pa yunivesite ya California ku Santa Barbara Bella Depaulo wachibadidwe sindikugwirizana ndi mawu amenewa. Chifukwa moyo wake wonse wamkulu (ndipo tsopano Bella, zaka 63), iye sankaona kuti wosasangalala ngakhale kuti anali asanamvepo pabanja ndipo ali ndi ana. Kwa zaka 10, katswiri anapereka kuphunzira ubwino maganizo ndi thupi la panokha. Panthawi imeneyi, Dr. DePaulo angathe kudziwa zotsatira za kafukufuku wasayansi oposa 800 pa nkhaniyi. Dziwani chifukwa kusungulumwa - ndizabwino kwa anthu.

zopezera ochulukirapo chikhalidwe

Anthu ambiri molakwa kuti apabanja kukhala abwenzi kuposa singletons. Komabe, zochokera deta zowerengera, ndi nthambi ochezera a pa Intaneti monga wosakwatiwa ndi chimodzimodzi basi. Ubwino Izi zapezeka 2015 by akatswiri Natalie Sarkisyan ndi Naomi Gerstel, amene asanaganize kulankhulana osiyanasiyana chotani pakati osakwatira wamkulu American ndi anthu okwatira. Chifukwa, chinapezeka kuti single nthawi zambiri kulankhula ndi anzawo, achibale, oyandikana nawo ndi ongodziwana nawo chabe. Iwo ali wokonzeka kupereka thandizo zonse zotheka kuti mamembala a maukonde awo yaikulu chikhalidwe.

Komano, pamene munthu mmodzi pali vuto lililonse anthu amene kamodzi anathandiza kupanga kubwerera sitepe. Mu mawu ena, umodzi akadali timasiyanitsa m'zigongono, amene amathandiza kuti moyo mavuto. Modabwitsa, kusungulumwa kumawonjezera chiwerengero cha kucheza ndi amuna komanso akazi, kaya ndalama zambiri kapena chikhalidwe.

Chilakolako cha maphunziro thupi

Ataona izi ali ndi choonadi: mabanja ambiri, ndi koletsedwa ubale, "kukhadzikika" osatinso kuyang'ana aziwatsatira. Osachepera pankhani kupita kumalo ochitira masewera, ndi wogwiritsira ntchito zothandiza kulimbikitsa thanzi, ndi mapeto a mndandanda patsogolo pa. Pamene ofufuza anayang'ana pa makhalidwe a anthu koposa okwana 13,000 ndi akazi zaka 18 mpaka 64, asayansi atulukira kuti bachelors maola ambiri pa sabata makalasi mu ochitira masewera a. Kafukufuku wina chidwi kunachitidwa mu 2015 ku Ulaya. Pamene ofufuza za anayerekezera thupi misa zolozera anthu 4,500 ochokera m'mayiko asanu ndi anayi ku Ulaya, chinapezeka kuti pafupifupi limodzi la makilogalamu 2,27 opepuka kuposa kafukufukuyu pabanja pawo.

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Data kusanthula mabanja ndi mabanja kuphunzira dziko anasonyeza kuti anthu osungulumwa amakonda kukula munthu. Pakati pa anthu, amene anapereka anasankha mfundo zotsatirazi:

• Moyo wanga - izo ndi ntchito za maphunziro, kusintha, ndi kukula ntchito.
• Nkofunika nthawi zonse chinthu chachilendo kuti akuthetsa ine, ndili ndi mwayi wosintha maganizo a dziko loyandikira.

Yekha kugwirizana ndi mawu awa, pamene anthu okwatira zapita iwo ndi.

Pambuyo pa ukwati anthu kukhala zochepa wopatsa

Wina dziko kafukufuku nthumwi kunachitidwa mu United States ndi mbali ziwiri: woyamba, mu nthawi kuchokera 1987 mpaka 1988, kenako kachiwiri zaka zisanu kenako. Bella Depaulo kusanthula deta ndipo anapeza kuti kafukufukuyu banja zochepa akalola kukongoza ndalama kwa abwenzi, poyerekeza ndi anthu amene sanali adagawana ndi ufulu. Tikumbukenso kuti anapezazo awa ntchito kokha amuna. Choncho, ambiri yekhayo American akaganizira anzawo ndiponso achibale ake madola 1875 kuposa mwamuna wokwatira. Koma zoyenera munthu kusudzula kuwolowa manja ake limatuluka pafupifupi manambalawo yapita (ndalama 1275).

katswiri anati: "Ngakhale kuti akazi ndi wokwatiwa, ali m'njira zosiyanasiyana ndalama, si zimaonekera opatsa. Koma anthu okwatiwa kupatula okonzeka kugawana chuma chawo ndi anzanu ndi abale anu. Inu simungakhoze kunena za yekhayekha, ndi wokonzeka kupereka ndalama kwa ngongole, ndi Gwero limodzi lokha la ndalama. "

Madalitso kwa Mental

Ndikuphunzitsidwa Emmi Morin ananenetsa kuti kusungulumwa angapo phindu kwa maganizo. Zithandizanso inu kukhala waphindu ndi munthu kulenga. Kodi muli ndi zambiri ufulu nthawi, imene mungathere pa nzeru zake. Zochitika zasonyeza kuti anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi imeneyi kuti kudzidziwa bwino. anapezazo chikukwaniritsa anaona a zamaganizo ena amene amasonkhana kusungulumwa ndi lingaliro la ufulu, ndege, kudzoza. Mwachitsanzo, ojambula zithunzi zambiri kupuma kulenga mwaluso wotsatira.