Kodi kutaya chikondi: malangizo maganizo. Chiritsani kwa Chikondi

Ngakhale chithumwa onse chikondi, kwambiri anyamata ndi atsikana, ndi amuna ndi akazi ndi mmene kuchotsa chikondi. Chifukwa zingakhale ambiri: kupanda reciprocity, kusowa nthawi, maganizo vutoli, ndi zina zotero. Mwamwayi, zamaganizo kudziwa zipangizo zothandiza kuthana ndi vuto limeneli.

Mosiyana ndi chikondi cha chikondi

Far si aliyense angathe kudziwa malire pakati m'kupita potengera anzawo ndi kumverera aakulu. Komanso, ngakhale asayansi ndi akatswiri a maganizo, amene kwambiri chinkhoswe mu kuphunzira kwa nkhaniyi, sakanakhoza kubwera kwa mapeto wamba. Komabe, n'zotheka kudziwa angapo makhalidwe kudziwa kusiyana pakati pa chikondi cha chikondi.

Kodi ndikufunika kuchotsa chikondi?

Pamaso lodziwa mmene kuchotsa chikondi, muyenera kudziwa kapena kuchita izo. Mwatsoka, ndi kumverera kodabwitsa si nthawi zonse kuti athandize mwamuna. Menyani waima milandu zotsatirazi:

• ngati chinthu choyamikiridwa si kusonyezanso mmene mukumvera;
• Ngati chikondi ali kungasokoneze thanzi lanu m'maganizo ndi m'thupi;
• Ngati inu chifukwa cha nsanje pathological;
• Ngati mukukumana ndi wosangalala monyanyira ubwenzi munthu;
• ngati chikondi kumverera kusokoneza maphunziro anu kapena ntchito.

Mwatsoka, aliyense mtsikana m'chikondi kapena wachinyamata angathe kulimbana ndi vutoli. M'malo mwake, iwo adzakhala njira iliyonse kukana linakhalapo. Kuti abwenzi ndi banja kuzindikira zolakwika mu nthawi.

Njira amachitira chikondi

Ngati mukufuna mankhwala a chikondi, yesani kupeza mwayi malangizo a zamaganizo. Mwachitsanzo, njira zotsatirazi ndi otchuka:

• kukonza njira kungakuthandizeni kupewa boma osafunika. Ngati mukuganiza kuti tsopano si nthawi chikondi, yesetsani kulimbana ndi mawonetseredwe ake onse: satha kuwerenga mabuku, simusamala masewero a sopo akulira, musamvere nyimbo zachisoni, ndipo ambiri Chofunika - malire kulankhulana ndi atsikana.
• Kutanthauzira zomveka zikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuyang'ana zinthu kuchokera kunja. Yesani kuonanso ubwino onse ndi kuipa kwa chikhalidwe chanu.
• Malinga ndi njira Lope de A Vega, izo tikulimbikitsidwa kuti atenge katundu wa chinthu choyamikiridwa wake. N'zotheka kuti Makhalidwe oipa mwa iye adzakhala ambiri apamwamba kuposa zabwino.
• Extrapolation njira adzalola kuti kuona za m'tsogolo. Tangoganizani kodi ubale wanu mu sabata, mwezi, chaka. Ngati mulibe kuona zinthu zabwino m'tsogolo, mwamsanga muchisiye chikondi.
• Kumuchitikira maganizo pa maalumali, kusunga yolondola ya moyo. Muyenera kukhala ndi ntchito, maudindo komanso zosangalatsa. N'zotheka kuti mu malingaliro salinso simudzakhala woganizira chikondi.
• Molunjika Talk ndi mnzake, wachibale kapena zamaganizo - ndiwo mankhwala abwino kwa chikondi. Mwatsatanetsatane kuti ndikuuzeni nkhani yanu, inu mwachidziwikire okha afika pozindikira kuti pali lingaliro la inu mavuto.

Iye akutilangiza kuti Freud?

Sigmund Freud anatchuka kwambiri chifukwa chiphunzitso molimba mtima kuti chilichonse chimene anthu amakhala ndi chikakamizo chibadwa basi kugonana. Komabe, ndendende chifukwa cha mkhalidwe umenewu, ambiri samatenga malangizo ake kwambiri. Komabe m'pofunika kutsatira malangizo ake pa momwe kuchotsa chikondi.

Freud anasamala mwapadera mtima makamaka, monga sublimation. Chikondi amapereka munthu mphamvu. Ngati kumverera lino ndi cholinga chimodzi kapena chimzake si zofunika kwa inu, kuyesera kutembenuza mu mtundu wina. Kulongosola mphamvu Mwachitsanzo, paluso, masewera, maphunziro ndi mitundu ina. N'zotheka kuti akhoza kukwaniritsa zotsatira zodabwitsa.

Mankhwala abwino - chingasinthe

Monga amadziwika, kupirira khalidwe linalake maganizo, muyenera kusintha kunja. Mu chikondi iye akhoza kuchotsa maganizo obsessive ndi chochita zinthu zotsatirazi:

• mopitiriza kusintha kwa fano (hairstyle, zovala ndi zina zotero);
• kupeza masewera atsopano (kapena mukhoza kupita ku chizolowezi kuti inu anatenga monga mwana);
• Watsopano chidwi anzawo (mwina ndi chiyembekezo chibwenzi);
• kusintha kwa chilengedwe (ngati simungakwanitse kupita, kuyesa kufufuza mzinda wawo pofunafuna maulendo atsopano ndi malo kuyenda);
• kusintha tsiku ndi tsiku (mwachitsanzo, n'zotheka kuti kusuntha mipando, kapena kuphunzira mmene kuphika zakudya zatsopano).

Popanda thandizo la okondedwa satero

Ngati mukufuna njira yochotsera chikondi, ndi thandizo la achibale ndi mabwenzi. chakuti mtima amakhala wovuta kwambiri kuwalalikira. Nthawi zina vuto ndi pachimake kuti popanda thandizo la njira yapafupi chimatheka. N'chifukwa chake muyenera kukhala funani thandizo.

Njira - kukambirana moona mtima. Ndi bwenzi, wachibale, mnzake kuntchito - zilibe kanthu. Chinthu chachikulu - moona ndikuuzeni za zimene zinawachitikira onse. Inu mukanakhala kudabwa, koma nthawi yomweyo mosavuta. Komanso, n'zotheka kuti mnzanuyo wachita kale zikufanana. N'zotheka kuti pakutha pa kukambiranako, inu yocheza ndi vutolo, limene mpaka pano maola angapo apitawo ankaona kuti n'zosatheka.

Kuzindikila

Kodi kuchotsa chikondi obsessive? Nthawi zina muyenera mankhwala mantha. Ngati kukukondani ndi sankadziwa mmene mukumvera, chifukwa kuwauza iwo mwachindunji? Kumene, ndi zovuta, koma ndithu adzabwera mu moyo wanu. Zitsanzo si kwambiri:

• iye (kapena iye) adzataya maganizo anu kuti mudzatumikira monga kukhumudwa kwambiri, koma zikuthandizani inu kumasuka;
• chikhoza kukhala kuti chinthu wanu chikondi, monga umachitira, kumva chikondi, koma akuzengereza avomereze (zimene zinachitikira mudzakhala ndi mwayi kumanga ubale wamphamvu ndi chiyembekezo pofuna).

anapezazo

Kodi kuchotsa chikhalidwe cha chikondi? Koyamba funso zingaoneke zopusa ndi zosafunikira, chifukwa aliyense amadutsa mu chochitika chikondi. Komabe, m'pofunika kuganizira munthu makhalidwe maganizo a munthu aliyense. Nthawi zina chikondi si monga kusokoneza kusukulu komanso kuntchito, koma angathe kuyambitsa mavuto aakulu maganizo ndiponso kufuna kudzipha, amene Mulimonsemo sayenera kuloledwa. N'chifukwa chake kuwerenga maganizo amakono amalipira ngati mwatcheru nkhani imeneyi.