Miyambo ponena za bwenzi, kapena Momwe mungaphunzitsire mwana malamulo a ubwenzi weniweni?

Makolo ayenera kumvetsetsa bwino: zimadalira kuti iwo adzakhala ndi tsogolo lotani. Ndipo si za mphatso, zovala kapena bungwe la maphunziro. Chofunika kwambiri ndizo makhalidwe abwino ndi auzimu omwe angabweretse mwana wawo. Pambuyo pake, iwo adzakhala nyenyezi yotsogolera yomwe sikudzawalola kuti iwonongeke mtsogolomu.

Mfundo yofunikira pa kulera kwa mwanayo ndiyo kupereka chidziwitso chokhudza ubwenzi. Pambuyo pake, maubwenzi a chikhalidwe ndizofunikira kwambiri pa moyo. Gwirizanani, ndi kovuta kulingalira mwana wokondwa yemwe samasuka kulankhulana ndi ena. Choncho, nkofunikira, kuyambira ali wamng'ono, kuti muphunzitse mwana wanu momwe angakhalire bwino maubwenzi ndi ena. Ndipo miyambi yokhudza mnzanu ndi yabwino kwa cholinga ichi.

N'chifukwa chiyani ana asungulumwa?

Mu sukuluyi ndi zosavuta kupeza mabwenzi, chifukwa panthaŵiyi, ana ambiri samvetsera zovala, umoyo wawo, zaka, ndi zina zotero. Koma kusintha kwa kusukulu, zinthu zonse zikusintha kwambiri.

Pano pali malamulo osiyana kwambiri, ndipo omwe sakudziwa nawo nthawi yomweyo amadzipeza okha pakati pa "otaika". Ana otero ali ngati kulira koyera, kopanda phindu ndi kosasangalatsa kwa wina aliyense. Koma choipa ndi chakuti pakapita nthawi zimakhala zosavuta kwa iwo amene akufuna kukhala ndi moyo wawo, kuchititsa ena manyazi.

Pambuyo pake, mwana wobedwayo amachotsedwa, amakhala ndi mavuto ndi maphunziro ake, ndipo chikhulupiriro chake mwa anthu chimakhala tsiku ndi tsiku. Kodi izi zingapewe bwanji? Ndi bwino kumuphunzitsa mwana malamulo awa omwe sali olembedwa kuyambira pachiyambi, kotero kuti ngati atalowa m'gulu latsopano, akhoza kuzilumikiza mosavuta. Ndipo athandizireni izi, ngati zopanda phokoso ngati zikumveka, miyambi yowonongeka yokhudza abwenzi.

N'chifukwa chiyani amagwiritsa ntchito miyambi?

Kotero, vuto la ana otsekedwa ndikuti sakudziwa momwe angakhalire bwino mu izi kapena izi. Choncho, m'pofunika kufotokozera malamulo oyambirira a kulankhulana kuyambira ali aang'ono , motengera ulemu ndi kukhulupirirana.

Miyambo ponena za bwenzi ikhoza kukhala njira yabwino yokwaniritsira cholinga ichi. Pali zifukwa zingapo izi:

• Choyamba, zomwe zilipo zimatithandiza kumvetsetsa maganizo a maubwenzi. Pambuyo pake, mwambi uliwonse ndi lamulo laling'ono lomwe maonekedwe amasonyeza mfundo za ubwenzi. Mwachitsanzo, "iwe umadzipatula wekha, ndipo umuthandize mnzako".
• Chachiwiri, miyambi imakhala ndi chiganizo chimodzi, chomwe chimakupatsani kukumbukira popanda khama lalikulu.
• Chachitatu, kugwiritsa ntchito luso lachikhalidwe sikudzangowonjezera chidziwitso cha mwanayo, komanso kuthandizira kukonza zomwe angathe kupanga.

Malamulo oyambirira a chiyanjano

Tsopano tiyeni tiyankhule za ubale weniweni komanso mfundo zomwe zimakhazikitsidwa. Koma tifunika kumvetsetsa kuti ngati munthu wamkulu akulankhula zambiri zowonjezereka, ndiye kuti mwanayo ndi nkhalango yamdima. Choncho, nthawi iliyonse yosamvetsetseka amafunika kufotokozedwa momveka bwino, ndipo kenako pitirizani kupita ku yotsatira.

Kotero, tiyeni tiyambe ndi maziko a ubwenzi, ndi kukhulupirira. Ndipotu, ndani angakhale bwenzi ndi munthu yemwe sangathe kudalira? Miyambi yanji yokhudza bwenzi ingagwiritsidwe ntchito monga chitsanzo?

1. "Mmodzi kwa onse, ndi onse" - ndi abwino kwa ana a msinkhu uliwonse, monga momwe amachitira mosavuta.
2. "Palibe mabwenzi - fufuzani, kupeza - yang'anani."
3. Chitsanzo chabwino chidzakhala mwambi wakuti "Bwenzi lakale ndiloposa mtengo watsopano."

Komanso m'pofunika kufotokozera mwanayo kuti ubwenzi umapangidwa mwauleme. Popanda iye, maubwenzi abwino sangagwire ntchito. Mwachitsanzo, miyambi yotsatira yokhudza abwenzi.

1. "Goose nkhumba si mnzako" - ndiko kuti, musayese kukhala bwenzi ndi munthu amene sakufuna.
2. "Moto ndi moto siubwenzi" - chifaniziro china, kutsimikizira ndemanga yapitayo.
3. Komabe palinso mwambi woterewu: "Bwenzi labwino mu vuto silikutaya". Ndi losavuta, koma limasonyeza maziko a ubwenzi. Komanso nkofunikira kufotokozera mwanayo kuti ngati mnzakeyo amamulephera nthawi imodzi, ndiye kuti, ndithudi, zidzakwaniritsidwanso mtsogolomu.

Nchifukwa chiyani ndikofunikira kukhala ndi anzanu?

Panthawi yophunzitsidwa, mwinamwake ndizovuta kuti mwanayo afunse funso losautsa: "Chifukwa chiyani abwenzi amafunikira izo nkomwe?" Ndikofunika kwambiri pa nthawi ino kuti asasokonezeke ndikupereka yankho lapadera kuti mwana amvetse zonse molondola.

Thandizo pa izi lingathe miyambi yofanana yokhudza mnzanu. Mwachitsanzo:

• "Chimene chimakhala ndi vuto, ndiye abwenzi ndi kuseka."
• "Ngakhale njuchi yofulumira yokha imaphunzitsa uchi kwambiri."
• "Simungathe kumangiriza mfundo ndi dzanja limodzi."
• "Kwa bwenzi laubwenzi ndi mbidzi yoipa sizabwino."

Ndipotu, pali zitsanzo zambiri. Koma chofunika cha zonse ndi chimodzi - palibe mabwenzi sangathe kukhala mosangalala. Ndipo kuti tanthauzo la pamwamba lifike pamtima la mwanayo, tigwiritseni ntchito monga chitsanzo chowonjezera mafano a anthu omwe akujambula kuchokera ku katemera omwe amakonda. Pambuyo pake, kuyang'ana kotereku kumathandiza kwambiri kuti pakhale maphunziro a mwana wanu.