Openga Chikondi kapena khalidwe?

ganizo amene tingathe kutaya chikondi akutembenukira zonse mozondoka, kupanga mitima yathu kumenya mofulumira. Openga chikondi angachititse zochuluka, ntchito ya ntchito zazikulu za luso ndi banal nyimbo. Tingakhale wachisoni, chisoni, ngakhale mlandu waukulu wa chiwawa, ndi chifukwa cha chikondi. Mu ndemanga oyenera a Bernard Shaw, ngati tikufuna kudziwa zimene chikondi openga, tikhoza kuwerenga ndime chigawenga Nkhani mu nyuzipepala.

Korona ndi wokondedwa: izi ndi kusankha!

dziko akadali chidwi ndi nkhani, ozikidwa pa chikondi moona openga. Iyi ndi nkhani ya Mfumu ya Great Britain Edward VIII anakondana kawiri ndi banja lawo lija linatha American Wallis Simpson. Pamene kukwatira chikondi chake motsutsa zikuchepa mwa oimira Mpingo, nduna yaikulu ya ku Britain, ndi akuluakulu ena.

Pambuyo pake, mu 1936, mfumu antchito ndi ankafuna kukhala ndi mkazi, anasiya mphamvu. Pambuyo kukhala pa mpando wachifumu chaka, iye anati: "Sindingathe kunyamula katundu wa mphamvu ndi udindo monga mfumu, popeza alibe ufulu kuchoka popanda thandizo la mkazi ndimakukondani." Iwo atakwatiwa ndipo anakhala Duke ndi Duchess, ankakhala chikondi ndi chimwemwe mpaka imfa Edward mu 1972. Duchess anapulumuka iye ndi zaka 14.

Ndi chikondi inu akhoza kutaya mutu wako, osati m'lingaliro lophiphiritsira

Chimodzi mwa zitsanzo zambiri zimene zimachitika chikondi openga, ndi chitsanzo cha ubale wa mfumu ya England Henry III ndi Anne Boleyn. Henry anakwatira Anna ndi kuthamangitsa kwa zaka zambiri, akuyesera kuti apeze chisudzulo kwa mkazi wake woyamba. Iye akusowa anafuna ichi, koma bambo anga sanalole kuti lithe. Henry anali kusiya, kotero iye anataya mutu wake, cholinga chake, chomwe chinali mtsogoleri wa mpingo ndipo ndiri ndi chisudzulo kwa Ekaterinoy Aragonskoy. Anakwatira Anne, iye anachotsedwa Katolika.

Ndipo kodi iye anali munthu wosangalala? Konse! Kenako anaphedwa Anna (panthawi imeneyo anali kale ku chikondi ndi mdzakazi wake), kudula mutu wake pa milandu yabodza. Zoonadi, chikondi sali amisala, ndi anthu amene amakhala. M'malo imatichititsa zinthu mwanjira ina, timasonyeza kumverera uku njira ina. Kukondana wina amakankhira pa chikalata, ndi zina - mu umbanda.

Chikondi angakupangeni kulira

N'chifukwa chiyani mukuganiza ndi kufufuza njira mmene kukayendera munthu pa chikondi? Pamene kumverera chikondi, mulibe kukayendera chinachake kapena kukayikira iye. Ndipo ngati inu muli wodzisunga kuwerengetsa ubwenzi wawo, ndiye zimene chitsimikizo kuti womwewo sanalandire ndi mnzake. Ngakhale inu aŵerengera zonse, mawa akhoza kubweretsa kapena masewera bwino kapena tanthauzo pamene kudzakhala kovuta kupirira ndi kukonza chilichonse chisanachitike.

Musati poyesa tsoka, khalani odzipereka, ndiye musati kuti muganize momwe fufuzani munthu kukonda. Iye sanali kuphonya, ndi kamodzi inu kuphunzira. Izo zimapangitsa mtima kugunda mofulumira m'nyengo yozizira kuona mitundu yonse ya utawaleza. Musayambe ubwenzi wake ndi chinyengo ndi mawerengedwe ozizira, tsoka angathe kukonzekera anadabwa zomwe n'zovuta ndikulingalira, ndipo makamaka kuwerengera izo. Tsatani mtima wanu, mwala inu.

Muzicheza ndi chikondi, kulemekeza mnzake, kapena mmene mukufunira

Ngati mukuganizira, kusiyana pakati pa chikondi cha ubwenzi, ndiye mwina ndinu wamng'ono, kapena simukudziwa mmene zamatsenga za chikondi. Ubwenzi - ndi asapita chete osalala, kumene kulibe malo a nkhanza kapena kudzikonda. Ngati ubwenzi chimakupangitsani inu nsanje, kukwiya kapena khalidwe loipa kwa ena, pali chifukwa kwambiri ndikuganiza simuli kwambiri pofuna kuthetsa maganizo anu. Ngati ubwenzi imakukhudzirani zoterezi amphamvu, zimene zidzachitike pa nkhani ya chikondi? Sichoncho chikondi chanu kwa wina ndi mnzake ulusi mu Nkhani za milandu?