Pamene zaka zovuta zikubwera

Achinyamata amakhala aulemu komanso amwano panthawi yomweyo. Nthawi yovuta nthawi zambiri imayamba ali ndi zaka 13. Nthawi iyi ikatha - ndi zovuta kunena mosaganizira. Chirichonse chimadalira munthu, maganizo ake ndi maganizo a ena. Chiwerengero cha kupanduka chikugwa pa zaka 15 mpaka 17. Izi ndi chifukwa cha kusintha kwa chikhalidwe cha achinyamata.

Zaka zovuta ndizofanana ndi nyengo yazitali. Achinyamata amalephera kudziona kuti ndi ana, amayamba kumva kuti ndi akuluakulu komanso okhutira. Kupanduka ndiko chifukwa chakuti makolo, mobwerezabwereza, amawona ana mwa iwo. Mikangano yambiri imachokera pazoletsedwa kosatha ndi kusagwirizana nazo. Ngati mukufuna kuletsa chinachake, ndibwino kuti muzipereke ngati mawonekedwe kapena zopempha. Yesetsani kupeza mwana wina wokondweretsa, zomwe zidzalowe m'malo mwa zomwe mukufuna kuziletsa.

M'badwo wovuta kwambiri ndi ukalamba . Zimasintha osati chikhalidwe cha maganizo chabe cha umunthu, komanso thupi lake. Malinga ndi chiwerengero, zaka zisanu zapitazo zakubadwa koyamba mu ubale wapamtima zinakafika zaka 14. Izi ndi zotsatira za nyengo yovuta .

Nthaŵi zambiri, zokambirana pa nkhani zakufupi sizibweretsa zotsatira zabwino. Mmene mungakhalire ndi makolo? Choyamba, musatenge mwanayo ali mwana. Ngati wachinyamata akudziona ngati wamkulu, ndiye kuti ayenera kuchitidwa moyenera. Izi sizikukhudzanso zokambirana zokha, komanso zofunikira zake. Musati muzichita izo ndi zirombo ndi kunyoza. Musabweretse mwana kumsokonezo. Chachiwiri, ndi bwino kulipira kwambiri zomwe mwana wanu amakonda, ndi yemwe amamuuza, kumene zimachitika. Mwina mwanjira zina zofuna zanu zidzakhala zofanana. Izi zidzathandiza kugwirizanitsa. Zaka zovuta ndizo chifukwa mnyamatayo amadzimva kuti ndi wodziwika, wosadziwika bwino. Yesani kumvetsetsa. Kapena osadzipangitsa kuti mumvetse. Koma musapitirire. Achinyamata amadziwa kwambiri zachinyengo.

Kuvuta kwachinyamata kumaphatikizidwa ndi chitukuko cha kugonana. Ndikofunika kuzindikira mfundo iyi kwa makolo. Chifukwa chiyani? M'kupita kwanthawi kudzikuza kudzidalira kwa mwana, kudziyesa kudzikonda komanso kulawa. Chotsatira ndi chofunika. Ngati pali kukoma, ndiye kuti mwanayo sangachitepo kanthu. Mwachitsanzo, imwani chakumwa chotsika mtengo ndipo muyambe kukondwera kwambiri.

Zaka zovuta ndizo nthawi yopandukira makolo ndi maziko awo. Komabe, achinyamata amatha kufika nthawi zonse. Ngati mukudziwa momwe mungawasangalatse, nthawi zonse mungapewe mikangano. Kuti muzichita mu whims? Mwachiwerengero. Ngati chiwombankhanga chikufotokozedwa momveka bwino, ndiye kuti n'zotheka kukumana ndi theka. Ndikofunika kuti nthawi zonse mumvetse bwino mnyumbamo. Lankhulani ndi mwanayo mobwerezabwereza, kambiranani mavuto ake (ngakhale osakhala ovuta, mumalingaliro anu), khalani ndi chidwi pazochitika zake. Ntchito yophunzira si zonse zomwe ziyenera kukukhudzani. Kupanduka kumabwera chifukwa chosamvetsetsana. Ngati mumakonda mwana wanu, ndiye kuti mumusamalire kwambiri.