Zopinga kulankhulana

Onse anatilandira polankhula mfundo timazindikira zimene anakumana wathu, alipo maofesi, komanso mwa prism mgwirizano wathu zotengera malingaliridwe kuti interlocutor lapansi. Ndipo nthawi zambiri timamva si zimene ife anayesa kusonyeza okondedwa athu. Nthawi zambiri molondola kufotokoza maganizo ake zosatheka kwathunthu chifukwa kusefukira mtima. zotchinga zimenezi, zikubweretsa chisokonezo ndi kupanga n'zosatheka kulankhulana phindu ndi zosangalatsa - izi ndi zoletsa kuyankhulana.

mitundu ya zopinga

Pali mitundu yambiri ndi makhalidwe amene akhoza wachinsinsi monga zoletsa kuyankhulana. Ife osakambirana mwatsatanetsatane classifications alipo, koma foni ndi kufotokoza mitundu ambiri.

1. Zolepheretsa kuzindikira

Awa zimalepheretsa kulankhulana, monga kulankhula chotchinga, kuweruza, ndi ena ambiri. Bwino, tiyenera kukhala wokhoza bwino kufotokoza maganizo awo. Mawu, makamaka kulankhulana malonda, ayenera kukhala nawatsimikizira kulungamitsidwa, ndi mtundu wa kulankhula - chikhulupiriro. The bwino wokamba asaaonerera pa mtima, m'pamenenso kuti adzatha kusonyeza zimene iye amafuna kunena. Komanso, mbali ngati mawu zingaipitse kuganiza za kulankhula mawu mosamalitsa, ndipo kwambiri choopsa kumvetsa ake. Ndipo ngati onse a mukufuna kukambirana, munthu amene atengere ku peculiarities wa kulankhula ndi wachiwiri ayenera kuganizira ntchito pa mbali mabvuto (mu makalasi apamwamba, angalimbikitsire ntchito ndikuphunzitsidwa kulankhula).

Nthawi zambiri zopinga kulankhulana uka chifukwa cha koyamba (nthawi zambiri amakhala chizindikiro sanali wapakamwa) pamene muzilankhulana bwino m'banja kumathandiza wosavomerezedwa maganizo ofooketsa kuti interlocutor lapansi. Monga mukhoza kuyambitsa kusakonda ena mbali kunja mnzanu wa malonda, koma muyenera kudziwa kuti sayenera bwanji nkhani ya zokambirana zanu.

Ndithu chikoka monga unsembe alipo, kupotoza maganizo zambiri. Tili ndi osiyana dongosolo la makhalidwe ndi matanthauzo osiyana mau omwewo. Ngati mukudziwa kusiyana alipo pakati pa inu ndi munthu wina, ndipo iwe kulowa mu nkhani (ie, ntchito bwino kwa munthuyo ndi mawu olondola kwambiri), zopinga kulankhulana adzakhala mwina kugonjetsa.

Payokha, mungatchule izi kumalepheretsa khalidwe kulankhulana ngati sungathe kumvera ndi chibadidwe iliyonse zosefera akumva, timamva zimene tikufuna kumva.

2. Zinthu Zopinga mogwirizana

Izi zopinga maganizo akulumikizana kuti imakhudzana ndi zolinga zosiyana, osiyana malo abwino, mlingo wa yamtunduwu ndi positi ofesi kalembedwe. Choncho, n'zovuta kulankhula ndi munthu amene amafuna kulankhula kwa inu chifukwa chosiyana kwambiri. Ndipo ngati munthu kukhazikitsidwa kuthetsa vuto linalake, ndi zina - pa nkhani chabe, kukambirana sakukhoza onse. Zikatero ndi bwino kuti yomweyo kudziwa zolinga zawo.

Momwemonso zovuta kupeza chinenero amene mlingo wa yamtunduwu nkhaniyi losiyana kwambiri, zomwe ndi oipa kwambiri ndipo kukhala chifukwa si kulankhulana konse.

3. Zolepheretsa maganizo

Zikuphatikizapo bwanji zotchinga kulankhulana uka mchikakamizo cha nkhawa kwambiri ndi zochitika katundu, munthu akakhala ndi osungidwa ndi manyazi kukhudzana ndi zopinga chifukwa lokoma (mkwiyo, mantha). kungasokoneze mogwirizana lotha ndi maofesi zozama za maganizo (monga manyazi kapena zolakwa), ndi mu maganizo oipa, zimenezi si chosakhalitsa komanso "aakulu."

Lembani magulu ochuluka ndi mitundu ya zopinga mu kulankhulana, koma mu kugunda ndi aliyense wa iwo, malingana ndi tanthauzo la makamaka munthu kwa inu ndi zolinga zanu mogwirizana ndi kusankha: mungayesere kubwera kwa mawu ndi zinthu, kapena kukana kulankhula konse. Pali milandu kumene chotchinga angathe kuthetsedwa ngati onse awiri ali nacho chidwi.

Ngati inu zokwanira kudzikonda mlandu, ndipo amaona kuti chifukwa cha zotchinga zimenezi zili zochita zanu, muli kale theka njira Kupha kwawo. Musakhale aulesi ntchito okha ndiponso kupempha thandizo kwa munthu amene angakuthandizeni izi.