Akuzipanga - ichi ndi chiyani?

Munthu aliyense kuyesetsa chinachake mu miyoyo yawo. Wina amalota, munthu amapereka zolinga ndi zolinga. Izi ndi zimene anthu amanena, monga osiyana terminology. Choncho zonena - chikhumbo kutuluka moyo zimene munthu amakhulupirira n'zotheka ndi woyenera umunthu wake. Apa akuyamba kwambiri "chidwi": chifukwa chiani anthu ena kukambapo mlingo zodzinenera, ena - anachepetsa? N'chifukwa chiyani anthu ena amayembekezera chokwanira, pamene ena - zosatheka? Ndipo amene akhoza kunena chomwe iwo ali?

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Choncho zonena - ndi eni anthu ufulu woti anthu kapena zinthu zina zofunika kwambiri. Izi zikhoza kukhala bwino ntchito, ulendo, maukwati zaphindu, ndi pa ntchito za sukulu, anayambitsa kapena bwalo mzinda. Kaya, kusiyana ndi amene adapangidwa pakati pa misinkhu yosiyana zodzinenera. The mkulu mlingo zodzinenera, oddly mokwanira, ndi khalidwe la anthu ndi kuchepa kudzidalira, izi zimakhudza mlingo zodzinenera. Iwo adakali bwinobwino Komabe, khalidwe zodzinenera amakhudza kudzidalira ndi kudzidalira - nkhambakamwa, koma kugwirizana pakati zinthuzo - wosatsutsika.

Kudzidalira ndi zolinga

Zamaganizo kuti anthu ndi mkulu kapena kusadzidalira, zodabwitsa, amathanso nacho mkulu mlingo zodzinenera, ndi otsika. Pankhani mlingo mkulu, zikutanthauza kuti munthu sangathe mokwanira kuwunika mphamvu zawo ndi mphamvu kukwaniritsa kufunika. Pankhani mlingo wochepa zodzinenera, munthu pamaziko a kudziyang'anira, ndipo, choncho alibe chikhulupiriro mwa mphamvu yawo, mwadala mwiniyo anapereka yaing'ono zolinga.

Kuona mlingo wa chiyembekezo

Wopambana, yogwira ndi zolinga pa munthu ndi kukhala mkulu osati mlingo wochepa zodzinenera. Iwo muli umboni weniweni kuti posapita nthawi moyo. Mosiyana ndi maloto kapena amene kuona dziko "sunali wa", anthu amenewa okha ntchito wolingana ndendende makhalidwe awo. zamaganizo American aona kuti ndi mkulu mlingo wa chilimbikitso kuti awapitikitsa kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo.

Anthu amene ali ndi zolinga unrealistically mkulu mu moyo, monga ulamuliro, nthawi zambiri mlingo wochepa wa chilimbikitso, sangathe kuzindikira zofuna zawo.

Mwachitsanzo zonena inadequately mpweya

Chitsanzo zofala ndi mtsikana madera kuganiza kuti akuyenera mwamuna Kalonga wa England. Komabe, iye alibe ngakhale kudziwa wake maphunziro mayi lilime, kuphunzitsa, ndipo choyipitsitsa cha zonse - si ngakhale atakhala. Iye basi amakhulupirira kuti amayenera kanthu. Pano pali chitsanzo, pamene anatengedwa payokha amadzinenera - ndi mismatch pakati weniweni makhalidwe a munthu ndi zolinga zake.

Kodi n'zotheka kudziwa mlingo wawo zodzinenera?

Izi zachitika mothandizidwa ndi zamaganizo waluso kapena mayesero apadera. Nthawi zina, kusanthula ndi zimenezi n'kofunika, ngati n'zosatheka moyo kukwaniritsa zolinga zina, koma mwachionekere woterewu yokha. Mwina, mu nkhani iyi mlingo zodzinenera si lifanane ndi mlingo wa khalidwe. Ndiye inu muyenera kuchepetsa kapena zonena kapena kukhala ndi makhalidwe awo khalidwe. Kusintha chizindikiro chako kuti agwirizane limanena - kuipidwa, ulendo wautali kuti si onse abwino.