Civil Ukwati: Ubwino ndi kuipa

Today mu dziko lathu sizachilendo mtundu wa co-kuli amuna ndi akazi wakhala ukwati wawo ku boma, kuti ndi mtundu wa moyo pamodzi, ulimi, kubereka ana, etc., kuti sizikutanthauza mwalamulo wa anthu okwatirana. Zifukwa ukwati wawo ku boma anayamba kufala, tingalankhule kwa nthawi yaitali - ndi imfa ya ukwati miyambo, chimene chili ndi boma monga mmodzi wa mbali yaikulu malamulo a moyo wa munthu, kufunika kwake kale m'maganizo mwa nzika ndi ndalama mwachilungamo mkulu wa ndondomeko palokha, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndi kusafuna wa anthu adzamangidwa ndi udindo. Ndithudi, zimene zimachititsa anthu kusankha ukwati wawo ku boma kwambiri, koma yesani kuzindikira chimene chimachititsa ubwino yapachiweniweni ukwati ndi kuipa kwa aliyense wa chotero wamphumphu. Mu ukwati wawo ku boma otsatira ambiri, koma zosachepera otsutsa ambiri odzipereka, kotero kumvetsa kodi ubwino ndi kuipa kwa njira iliyonse membala amalandira banja achilendo n'chofunika kwambiri kuti amalakwitsa.

Ubwino wa ukwati wawo ku boma zambiri monga mwayi wophunzira bwino, kotero kunena "azolowere" anthu kuti ubwere mu izo. Dziwani kuti zimenezi n'zotheka Kodi anthu ambiri kuzindikira umunthu wawo ndi kumvetsetsa mmene omasuka adzakhala azikhala ndi okondedwa osankhidwa, koma mu nkhani iyi, vutolo likhoza kukula pamene vuto pang'ono kuti kwenikweni uka tatsimikiza molondola kuchokera amazionera ubale miyambo banja ndi ilo liri zotsatira chabe - n'kuwononga.

The mwayi wachiwiri - kusunga ndalama. Mmene zingamvekere corny, koma lero ndalama n'chofunikira yaikulu pa mbali zonse za moyo ndi banja yotero. Inde, miyambo ndondomeko ukwati amafuna ndalama mwachilungamo lalikulu, kukula kwa chomwe nthawi zambiri onerous alowe mu ukwati wa anthu, makamaka achinyamata. Komanso palibe kufunika ndalama pa ukwati, anthu okhala cohabiting mabwenzi, nthawi zambiri amatchedwa ubwino wake mu mbali zofunika mwayi 'kunyengeza "boma. Mwachitsanzo, akazi ambiri adzalandire madalitso anafuna kuti amayi osakwatiwa, ngakhale kuti ali ndi waluso kwambiri ndi okondedwa, ngakhale mwamuna "unformed".

Yesani, mukhoza kupeza zinthu zina zabwino chosowa "satifiketi ukwati", koma idzafotokoza kufotokoza mwachidule zimene kuipa kwa ukwati wawo ku boma nthawi zambiri chopinga ku chikhazikitso cha zochita pa yolowera pa ubwenzi woterewu:

- Milandu asapita kwithu ndi mbali substantive wa coexistence;

- Kusowa kwa nthawiyi ya udindo mwa zibwenzi kwa mzake ndi kwa ana limodzi;

- Malamulo ndi makhalidwe mbali, nthawi zambiri akuwonetseredwa chifukwa cha kusowa chitsimikizo cha boma cha ukwati.

- Kusowa kwa zonse kumvetsa zimene banja Ana makolo amene osaganizira kofunika zomangira mfundo.

Kumene, ngakhale pamwambapa, munthu aliyense kudzisankhira yekha mmene kumanga moyo wake. Chinthu chokha chimene ine ndikufuna kunena ichi ndi chimene nkhani iliyonse ayenera kukhala awiri pamodzi, mosamala ndi chikumbumtima. mgwirizano ayenera kukhala omasuka m'lingaliro maganizo, kutero amatha kuthandiza koma chikondi ndi wozindikira, ndipo pamaso pa wowopsa "akamwalira" mu pasipoti si kusewera chotero udindo waukulu. Anthu okhawo amene angathe kuyamikira ndi kukonda okondedwa awo amatha postorit banja amphamvu, ziribe kanthu momwe lalifupi iwo sakutchedwa.