Mmene tingagonjetsere kuopa kwanu?

Man ana aang'ono amacheza ndi anthu ena. Koma, koma, anthu ambiri, anakumana ndi anthu zambiri mavuto. Zingatanthauze kuti ngati nthawi zonse kulankhula ndi chilengedwe chawo, tiyenera saopa anthu. Koma pena, pamaso malankhulidwe anthu, kufunika misonkhano yofunika pa ntchito ndi pa zochitika zofanana pamene ife ayenera kulankhula, zikuoneka kuti sitili okonzeka. Kodi mantha anu? Kodi lusolo ndikukhala odzidalira?

Nthawi zina, mantha singalifotokoze ena zochitika zopweteka zimene zimakhudza psyche, utakhala gwero la chonama chikhalidwe, pamene munthu safuna kutuluka mantha kulankhula ndi ena. Koma Zikatero n'zochepa.

Nkhani chosiyana ndi pamene munthu wathanzi, koma pazifukwa zina tikukumana ndi vuto kucheza. Mwachitsanzo, munthu chikhulupiriro mwa Iye yekha, koma kuteteza maganizo awo sangathe. Ena sadziwa mmene tikumvera mumtima kotero kuti iwo anamvetsa mwa anthu kumuyandikira. Ena chifukwa cha kudzichepetsa awo ndi zinawathandiza kudziwa za mwanzeru ndi mantha kulankhula ndi munthu amene ali ndi zabwino kwa iwo. Amakonda chinachake wanyamula mkati, osalola kumanga anzathu. Wina amadalira maganizo ena, mantha kuyamikira Mwachidule choncho akugwirizira nthawi zonse mu mthunzi, koma mobisika akufuna kukhala mtsogoleri. Mavuto awa kungachititse kuti mkwiyo, chidani pa dera dziko ndi "mlandu." Zachitikiranji zimenezi? Mmene tingagonjetsere kuopa kwanu?

The chododometsa kwagona kuti kupewa kugonana chifukwa cha mantha awo si njira yodzitetezera. Only pa koyamba zikuoneka kuti dera lawo lonse zimapangitsa moyo womasuka kwambiri. Ndipotu si.

umunthu ndi wodzikonda. Ngati chilengedwe akuona mantha anu, nthawi zambiri yekha kudziona watero akhoza kudikira m'malo akumuthandiza chifukwa "skromnyagi". Kumene, pali Asamariya mayunitsi kuti amatha kupepesa ndi kusamalira, akaona kuti akufunika. Koma monga ulamuliro, anthu - "adani." Choncho muyenera mungadzitetezere ku iwo kwambiri. Kotero, momwe kuthetsa mantha ndiponso kupewa ndi vuto?

Kukayikakayika mu ambiri anakulira ku ubwana: makolo ovuta aphunzitsi kodi osamvetsa (ngakhale mosalingalira) kwambiri kuswa umunthu mwana, amafuna kugonjera. Mantha moyo anthu ambiri.

Mungathe kuchotsa mantha, popanda kuwaika thandizo kunja. Kuchita izi, inu simusowa zamaganizo, mungathe kuchita popanda "zovala zosalowa" anzathu ndi achibale.

Kuti tichotse mantha ndi kudalira paokha ayenera kuphunzitsidwa (kapena masewera olimbitsa thupi). Kupambana masewera zimadalira minofu misa ndi sharpness luso. Komanso tsiku ndi tsiku Mokhumbira Pakufunika maphunziro. Choncho, kulankhula ngati kuli kotheka, ngakhale inu samaona zimenezi. Travel zoyendera, ogulitsa mu sitolo, anansi - aliyense akhoza kukhala "aphunzitsi" kukhala chidaliro chanu ndi ufulu mantha. Kotero inu mumvetsa mofulumira momwe mantha, ndi kukhala wokhoza kuthana nazo.

Mu ndondomeko ya kulankhulana maganizo pa interlocutor wake ndi khalidwe lake kunja, sindikuyesera kuti adzaone zimene anali kuganiza monga kuzindikira, ndi zimene kuganiza inu kuzichita izo. Muyenera kuphunzira kuganizira kulankhulana zakunja kwa amaletsa "mkati monologues, mikangano" kuti kungadzutse mantha wowopsa. Izi adzalola kuti aone zimene interlocutor, kuti amvetsetse zomwe akuganiza. Komanso, kotero inu mukhoza kupeza bwino mkati ndi kuchotsa mavuto thupi mu kulankhulana (pakhosi youma, chibwibwi, thukuta pamphumi) ndi maganizo (inu sadzaiwala zimene muyenera kunena ndi kusochera).

Mukhozanso kuyesa amachita njira Kuona mantha awo - kupanga mndandanda olembedwa, kenako kuutentha. Ichi chidzakhala kumasulidwa maganizo pa zimene mantha inu kale. kupeza ufulu mkati ndi kuyamba kulankhula pa maziko ofanana, mumvetsa mmene tingagonjetsere mantha.