"Zopanda malire" zimapereka "kwa achinyamata: kufotokoza

Chiyeso "Chiganizo chosatha" mu psychology chimachitika pamene zimakhala zofunikira kuzindikira ndi kuphunzira maganizo ena a munthu, osati kungodziwika ndi iye. Njira imeneyi imatha kumvetsetsa zomwe munthu amamva zokhudza iwowo, makolo awo, banja lawo, anthu, zolinga za moyo. Ndilibwino, koma liri ndi zina.

Mfundo za njira

Chiyeso "chosamaliza" chiyeso chimachokera pa lingaliro la mayanjano aufulu. Zimatithandiza kudziwa mavuto a umunthu ndi umunthu, kudziwa momwe munthu akumvera mumtima mwake, momwe zimakhalira ndi matenda omwe ali okhudzana ndi matenda a mitsempha. Ndipo yesero palokha silovuta. Ngakhale mwana wa msinkhu wa zaka zapanyumba akhoza kuthana nawo. Ikhozanso kutchedwa kutengeka.

Zimachitika motani? Wokhululuka wapatsidwa mawonekedwe okhala ndi malingaliro opanda pake. Mwachidziwitso pali 60 mwa iwo, koma pangakhale phindu lina ngati mayesero apangidwa payekha kwa gulu lirilonse la anthu kapena munthu mmodzi.

Milandu yonse yosamalizika ikugwirizana ndi zinthu zina zomwe zimakhala ndi moyo, zomwe zilipo 15 zokha. Maganizo amenewa ali payekha, m'mbuyomu, m'tsogolomu, pansi, abwenzi, abambo, amayi, banja, akuluakulu, ogwira nawo ntchito komanso oimira amuna kapena akazi anzawo. Ndiponso, mbalizi zikuphatikizapo kudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa, nkhawa (mantha), zolinga, ndi ubale wapamtima.

Ngati mutenga mayeso oyenerera, ndiye kuti "gulu" lirilonse liri ndi malingaliro anayi omaliza. Ndipo munthu yemwe akuitanidwa kuti adutse nawo ayenera kuwonjezera malemba oyambirira mu mawonekedwe aulere ndi mofulumira momwe angathere, pafupifupi popanda kuganiza ndikungoganizira chabe maganizo awo ndi malingaliro awo.

Zitsanzo

Kuti mumvetse zomwe "Zomwe simunathe kuzilemba" ndizo, mungathe kuwerenga zitsanzo zingapo zomwe zimachotsedwa.

Awa ndi mau awiri: "Ngati chirichonse chiri chotsutsana nane, ndiye ..." ndi "Pamene sindine mwayi, ine ...". Iwo ali ndi udindo wa maganizo a wovomera kwa iyemwini. Mawu akuti "Kodi angachite chilichonse kuiwala ..." amatanthauzanso kudziimba mlandu. Koma chiganizo "Mantha anga oposa kamodzi anandipanga ine" amatanthauza mantha ndi nkhawa.

Choyambirira, mayesero oyambirira angathe kuchitika pakati pa achinyamata. Ndibwino kuti tisiye kuthetsa zosagwirizana za kugonana, chifukwa pali chinachake chokhudza mtima ("Moyo wanga wa kugonana ...") ndi ukwati wamba. Mawu okhudza nkhani ya akuluakulu angathe kusintha. Mu chiganizo "Pamene bwana wanga akuyandikira ine ..." mawu omalizira amavomerezedwa ndi "aphunzitsi". Mayeso ena onsewa sakuimira chinthu china chapadera, kotero chikhoza kuchitidwa pakati pa anthu omwe akufunsidwa.

Kuzindikiritsa za kudzipha

Kawirikawiri, ndi cholinga ichi kuti njira "Zoperekera zoperewera" imagwiritsidwa ntchito pakati pa achinyamata. Tsoka ilo, m'nthawi yathu ino ndi lofunikira.

Kuti mudziwe zolinga za kudzipha pakati pa ana a sukulu a msinkhu wosasinthasintha, nkofunika kutembenuza mayesero ofanana ndi kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha mafunso. Iwo akhoza kukhala 28, pakati pawo 4 okha omwe angakhale owonetsa, koma obisika. Ndi momwe angamvekere: "Mawa ...", "Tsiku lidzafika pamene ...", "Ndikufuna kukhala ndi moyo chifukwa ..." "Ndikamaliza sukulu ...".

Inde, sikungatheke kuti wina ayankhe funso lachitatu kuchokera pamwambapa ndi kulemba za kusowa kwa lingaliro la kukhalapo kotero. Koma ngakhale molingana ndi yankho langwiro, mukhoza kudziwa ngati chirichonse chikugwirizana ndi mwana. Akhoza kulemba kuti: "Tsiku lidzafika pamene ndidzasangalala." Ndipo lidzakhala "belu". Ngati iye anapanga kupitiriza kwa mawu, ndiye, mwinamwake, chinachake chikumuvutitsa iye. Ndipo izi sizingatheke popanda chidwi.

Njira yoyesera kusukulu

Monga tanenera kale, kusiyana kwakukulu kungasinthidwe. Maphunziro osamaliridwa a ophunzira apamtima ayenera kumveka mosavuta. Pano pali chitsanzo cha momwe angakhalire: "Mu maphunziro ndikuwona ...", "Kusukulu I ...", "Sukulu yathu ...", "Omwe ndimaphunzira nawo". Zomwe simungathe kuzikonzekera kwa ana a sukulu zimamveka komanso zosavuta. Koma, pogwiritsa ntchito mayankho awo, munthu amatha kumvetsa zomwe zimaperekedwa payekha.

Tiyerekeze wophunzirayo akupitiriza mawu awa pamwambapa motere: "Mu maphunziro, ndikuwona mwayi wopeza chidziwitso chatsopano. Kusukulu ndimamvetsera mphunzitsi ndikuyesera kuchita ntchitoyi. Kalasi yathu si yabwino kwambiri. Anzanga akusukulu amandikonda kuseka. " Mayankho awa amalola kuti amvetsetse - mwanayo amakonda kupita kusukulu, monga momwe akuwonera kuti izi zingatheke kuti adzipange yekha komanso kuti apite patsogolo. Koma samakhutitsidwa ndi chikhalidwe cha chiyanjano ndi anzake a m'kalasi. Pali kusowa kwa kuyankhulana ndi kumverera kochepa.

Chochita ndi zotsatira?

Kukonzekera kwawo ndi kutanthauzira kwawo kumayang'aniridwa ndi katswiri wodziwa bwino yemwe amadziwa bwino mayeso "Zoperekera zoperewera". Munthu amene anakumana ndi njira iyi yoyamba idzakhala yophweka, koma nthawi idzapita kutali.

Ndipo mfundoyi ndi yosavuta. Pa chigawo chilichonse cha malingaliro, chikhalidwe chimapangidwira chomwe chimatanthawuza dongosolo la chiyanjano mu funso monga kulowerera, zabwino kapena zoipa. Ngati chiwonetsero chabwino chimawonekera pakupitiriza kwa wofunsidwa, yankho lake likukhazikitsidwa ku zero. Kodi simukulowerera ndale? Ndiye ichi ndi chigawo. Koma kupitiriza ndi khalidwe loipa kumadziwika ndi deuce.

Ndikofunika kuzindikira kuti njira "Zomveka zosamveka" (kwa achinyamata komanso osati) zimatanthauza kutanthauzira mayankho ndi magulu. Lolani mawuwo ndi kusakaniza mawonekedwe, koma awongoleni anayi powaphatikiza iwo mu gulu limodzi.

Kutanthauzira

Mwachitsanzo, tingatenge gawo la ziganizo, kupitilira komwe kumapangidwira kumvetsetsa maganizo a wovomera ku luso lake. Tiyerekeze kuti wachinyamatayo anayankha kuti: "Pamene zinthu zikulimbana ndi ine, ndimayamba kugwira ntchito mwakhama. Ndikudziona ndekha ndikhoza kuchita chilichonse ngati ndikufuna. Chofooka changa chachikulu ndi chikhumbo chosatha cha chidziwitso chatsopano. Ndilibe mwayi, ndimayesetsa kupeza zomwe ndikufuna, ziribe kanthu. " Mayankho amenewo amaonedwa kuti ndi abwino. Ngati mwanayo atapitiriza kuchita zomwezo, ndiye kuti ali ndi chidaliro mwa iyemwini, ndipo amatha kuthetsa zopinga.

Ndikofunika kupereka chitsanzo cha kutanthauzira kosayenera. Mukhoza kutchula gulu la zifukwa zokhuza zolinga. Tiyerekeze kuti wachinyamatayo anawauza motere: "Nthawi zonse ndinkafuna kupha munthu. Ndikanapeza chimwemwe mwa kukhala ndekha. Maloto anga ndi kupita ku chilumba chosakhalamo. Koposa zonse ndikufuna kuchokera pa moyo wanga kuti palibe wina ayenera kundikhudza. " Ndipo pakadali pano, ngakhale njira zosakwaniritsika sizowonongeka kuti zimvetsetse zachinyengo ndi zopanda pake za munthu wovomera. Mwachiwonetsero chakumveka bwino kuti iye ndi woganiza mopanda nzeru wa intro introvert, kukana chikhalidwe.

Kodi ndingapeze chiyani?

Njira ya "ziganizo zosatha" kwa achinyamata ndi anthu a mibadwo ina ndiyo njira yosonyezera zomwe munthu ali nazo. Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti wofunsidwayo akuyankhira izi, chifukwa kudalira ndi kuyesedwa kwa chiyeso n'kofunika.

Malingana ndi zotsatira za kutanthauzira zotsatira, nkotheka kufotokozera malo omwe maganizo oipa, osalowerera nawo ndi abwino amakhala nawo.

Komanso, pochita izi, milandu imadziwika pamene mayeserowa athandizira kuzindikira matenda a maganizo. Izi ndizochitika zapadera, popeza zimakhudzana ndi matenda aumaganizo. Choyamba, zigawo zazikuru za chisokonezo ndi mikangano zimadziwika. Kenaka, maubwenzi pakati pa malingaliro a munthuyo amatsimikiziridwa. Ndipo pambuyo pake, chomwe chimatchedwa umunthu mawonekedwe chikufotokozedwa. Izi zikutanthawuza, kuchuluka kwake kwayankhidwe, kusinthika maganizo, kukula, msinkhu weniweni, nkhondo.

Zochitika za njirayi

Zonsezi zapambana zimakuthandizira kupeza mayeso. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa palibe njira zosakonzekera ndi mayankho olondola kapena olakwika mmenemo. Munthuyo amayankha ngati mzimu. Saganizira ndi kusanthula momwe angayankhire kubisala umunthu wake. Zimakhala zotseguka, ndipo izi zimathandiza katswiri wa zamaganizo kuti amvetse zomwe akufunikira. Ndi chifukwa chake mayesero akuti "Zoperekera zoperekedwa" kwa achinyamata ayenera kuchita nthawi zonse. Ndiponsotu, kusukulu, pa nthawi yovuta kwambiri, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuyang'anira chitukuko cha ana cha mkati.