Maula kunyumba. Psychology chinyengo.

Ufiti, openduza - kanthu chimene munthu ayesa zinthu zina ndi anthu ena. Lero, za chikoka ozizwitsa tsoka la manambala ndi zinthu, mitundu fungo ndi kumva nkhani pa mlingo wa mtsutso sayansi. Inenso sindidzakana kuli chikoka matsenga. Komanso, m'nkhani ino mudzapeza Chinsinsi amene mungathere kuziwerenga munthu kunyumba. Koma choyamba, ndiyesetsa kuti afotokoze owerenga anu chifukwa maula kunyumba kapena mothandizidwa ndi akatswiri olosera zam'tsogolo - zosangalatsa zoipa ndi woopsa.

funso sikudzakhala za uchimo makhalidwe matsenga. Mulungu adzaweruza anthu onse amene mukufuna kuona zilubwelubwe zambiri mitu ya anthu. Timanena za mwangwiro yothandiza zinthu tsiku ndi tsiku.

Nthawi zambiri anthu amachita zamatsenga kufuna kubwezera kumverera anakana. chikondi iliyonse analibe chikondi chizindikiro cha chinthu, koma kufuna kupeza okhutira ayenera kukhala amphamvu kwambiri. Gwirizanani, sipakhala chikhumbo choyaka kupangitsa munthu ululu ayankhe prodelyvat miyambo yaitali ndi zovuta privorotov palibe amene adzatero. Ine sindikudziwa ngati m'pofunika kuti afotokoze mmene zowononga thupi ndi moyo ndi zoipa chizolowezi. N'zotheka kwambiri kuti kuwonjezera zochita mwambo, anthu amachita khama ena bwino ndi nkhani ya "chilakolako." Mwina kuti apindula nazo. Koma ngati maziko a unansi si chikondi, kubwezera, kanthu zabwino sudzatha. Mu nkhani zabwino, makolowo adagawana adani, pa zikachitika - apitiriza kukhala mu hade padziko lapansi, amenenso analenga.

Timamva nthawi zambiri kuti maula sizikugwira ntchito kunyumba. Izi ndi zoona pa 100% ndipo konse chifukwa sadzatha kuti akachite mwambo paokha. Kosavuta kuchita chimodzimodzi zomwe ndi zofunika. Koma mfundo apa si mu ndondomeko ya zochita kutero. Monga ambiri amachita amatsenga - zamaganizo kwambiri ndi ntchito yawo ndi kasitomala ndi monga malangizo akatswiri pa nkhani za m'banja. Mwatsoka, tilibe kudalira chithandizo cha akatswiri ambiri kulipira wam'bwebwe kapena zamatsenga, mukuvomera yokumana ndi zamaganizo a. Ngati mkazi wanzeru ndithu katswiri ntchito yawo, n'zosavuta kupeza njira yofikira kwa kasitomala. Tangoganizani dona kuti anapempha kuti abwerere kwa mwamuna wake. Mfiti ndi kuonetsetsa kuti ndikulangizeni mkazi anasiya si kum'soŵetsa mtendere kapena chiwembu, koma adzapereka malangizo okhudza mmene zinthu ndi mwamuna wake. Si chinsinsi kuti anthu awiri atatu, pakupita pansi pa mtima banja, maloto kubwerera. Ngati mkazi si wompereka adzaitana kumbuyo, koma zinthu ngati kanthu zinachitika, ingoganizani zotsatira za nkhaniyo?

Mukufuna kudziwa chifukwa Ineyo pandekha amakhulupirira kuti maula sayenera anachita panyumba? Tiyeni tiyese Taganizirani ina imene anthu anayamba matsenga mwambo - unrequited kumverera. Palibe ananena ndi chakuti chikondi unrequited nthawi zonse chopweteka. Munthu kwenikweni malo payokha kupeza, kukhulupirira kuti moyo wake Sindingachite popanda chinthu chilakolako. Koma n'zotheka kuti anasankha mu icho, kuti izo modekha, osati chikhalidwe chokwanira ndithu zowona? Monga mukudziwa, chikondi sangathe bwino ganizilani zinthu. Iye amaona chinthu chokha osema mu kuwala bwino, kutsimikizila okha ndi ena kuti ndi bwino kuti aliyense ndipo sadzatero.

Aliyense judgmatic amadziwa kuti ngati chibwenzicho sizinatero, ndi bwino kuiwala basi chirichonse ndi kuyamba moyo watsopano. Zimene zimachitikira anthu amene ali mu kamphindi chosowa mtengo amayesetsa maula kunyumba kapena mothandizidwa ndi katswiri? Man igwera mu mtundu wa uzingopitirira, kudyetsa mwini mavuto Musanyengedwe awo zosafunika ndi chiyembekezo. Zonse raskovyrivaya bala, musati tizidalira chakuti iye anachiritsidwa. Ndipo ngati tikonda kuziwerenga sadzakhala ndi zotsatira?

Kodi sanabwere ndi zaka mazana chikondi matsenga. Auzeni pa magazi, wakuda wotsirika, chikondi kuziwerenga pa tsitsi lake. Paokha kugwira matsenga mpheto zosiyanasiyana amakonda kugonana chilungamo. Sindidzamwanso kuyesera kukhulupirira kuti kuziwerenga izi oopsa. Lang'anani, chinthu chikondi kuziwerenga chabe sizinachitike - abwino kapena oipa. Koma aliyense wokhala pa mwambo, kuti angathe choganiza matenda khalidwe. Komabe, ngakhale tchimo kapena diso loyipa si zogwirizana. Monga zamaganizo kunena, chikhalidwe chawo zinagwira kukhumudwa ndi chilakolako Kunena mwachidule, sizingatheke.

Pomaliza, monga momwe analonjezera, Ine ochokera kunong'ona mwambo, umene kumene sabwerera munthu pa kutulukira komaliza Koma sanamuyankhe inu potsiriza kuiwala. Ngati inu basi anali kukangana ndi chiyembekezo ubale kumeneko, dikirani. Pasanapite ankakonda zimawonekera atafika pakhomo ndi kupepesa.

Chertushki - Bratushka, kuima kumbuyo mtumiki wa Mulungu ... kulikonse amuke, kulikonse kam'pachikeni. Dzina langa ndi ... kumbuyo kwa iye nanena, mwamphamvu angagwirizanitse kwa mtima. Kuyambira mtumiki wa Mulungu ... kupitiriza, kwa kamphindi, musachoke, ndi zonse za ine kukumbutsa. Dzina langa ndi kukumbukira ndi sadzaiwala. Amen.
Lemba pamwamba chithunzi amaloweza lililonse madzulo dzuwa litalowa, mkati mwa mlungu.