Chikondi - zimakhala zosavuta! (Gawo 1)

"Ndimakonda." Chochititsa chidwi mawu. Zimakhala zosavuta kuti "Ndine chitsiru!" Than kuvomereza munthu kukonda. Mbali yoyamba pali mawu Ndipotu, kupusa kwawo, lachiwiri - maudindo oletsa palokha ndipo pa bwenzi la. Aliyense invests mu lingaliro la "chikondi" chake, koma iye amadziwa tanthauzo lake. Koma chofunika ali yemweyo. Mwamtheradi aliyense amakonda. Koma chikondi m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Munthuyo mkazi ubwenzi nthawi zambiri, pali m'modzi ndipo olingana. Chiwawa kumulakalaka theka lake chachiwiri, chomwe mu idealization izi. Man-wachikondi, iye sanadziwe chilichonse koma chinthu choyamikiridwa wake. Koma, tsoka, si chikondi. Ndi lingaliro ambiri monga kugwa m'chikondi. Onsewa imeneyo. nthawi A pamene zikuoneka kuti dziko pali chilichonse kupatula iye (iye). Ndi zamoyo zonse umamumvera munthu mmodzi yekha. Kugwa m'chikondi - ndi ziyerekezo wa abwino bwenzi fano. Pa nthawi imeneyi, pali idealization zakukhosi, maganizo ndi zochita. Chirichonse Zikuoneka zomveka wokongola. Ndipo chifukwa chimwene wosatha. Pali chinthu chotero monga "chopereka." Apitirizebe Mu kugwa mu siteji chikondi, onse awiri atumikire monga mphatso khamu. Ndipo kuganizira mfundo yakuti mawu a chikhalidwe banal, kutama mzake. Koma, mwatsoka, yochepa ankakhala gawo kugwa m'chikondi. Chimakhala cha masiku angapo kuti zingapo. nthawi Nastaot ndi gulu masewera, lotchedwa "Chikondi", kuchotsa masks awo. mfundo ndi yakuti m'nthawi ya chikondi, onse awiri akuyesetsa kusonyeza ku mbali yabwino. Izi ndi kuvomera kwa idealization wina ndi mzake. Mungamuyandikile ndi fanizo nyama - pa nyengo mating, ambiri a iwo kuyambira kusonyeza makhalidwe awo abwino (mwachitsanzo, nkhanga yaimuna kufwanyulira mchira wake wokongola kusonyeza wamkazi, amene ali okongola). N'chimodzimodzinso ndi anthu. Kukonda kapena malekezero, kapena akufotokozera mu chikondi. Mwatsoka, kukwaniritsidwa kwa kusintha onse chimaposa mosiyana. Tikazindikira kuti nthawi osaleka chimwemwe ndi chisangalalo pamodzi itatha. Tikazindikira kuti kutsogolo kwa inu si munthu yemweyo adali kale. Kungotengeka maganizo umatha pamene wina (kapena onse) wasankha kusonyeza yekha woona, chidaliro cha anthu ena. Kapena kufufuza choonadi cha mphamvu, kapena kuphwanya ubale. Pa nthawi imeneyi mkangano wayamba. Ndipo zomveka mu kumvetsa muyezo, ndipo intrapersonal (chifukwa chiyani ine ichi? Kodi ndimamukonda (ake), kwenikweni). mikangano kawirikawiri amakhala ndi khalidwe la puerility. Aliyense wa ife kwambiri pansi "kupweteka mwana" amene yekha akudziwa zimene amasunga kuti: "Ine sindikufuna! Ine sindingakhoze! Sinditero! Ziyenera kukhala! Ine sudzapereka! Wanga! ". Zovuta kuthetsa mwa iwo okha zikhumbo ana, kuyesera kuti kugwirizananso yachibadwa. Ndipotu choseketsa, pamene mwamuna ndi mkazi ali okha kwambiri monga ana, adzabereka mwana uyu, kuthetsa awo "zachibwana" zolinga kukhala "aakulu."

Sikuti kuzindikira mikangano chinachake yachibadwa. Izi zikungofanana ndi mawu akuwiringula. Monga chida mmene zinthu woona. Nkhondo iliyonse muyenera kuzindikira mzere chabwino, ndi sindikuwatsutsa mdani wanu, koma yesani kumvetsa nokha. Kuti timvetse N'zimene inu kuti nkhondo imeneyi. Mwachidule kumvetsa okha. Chikondi - uwu si kuvomereza mphatso ndi zopereka. Chodzipereka kwa munthu wina. Chikondi - ndi ntchito. Choyamba okha. Tsopano, lingaliro la chikondi atchukitsa. Ku wailesi, TV, ndi msewu, kuchokera maukonde chikhalidwe kamatifika: "Ndimakonda, chikondi». Nthawi erases akamanena za mfundo. Chinthu chokha chimene sizinasinthe - kuti "Ndimakukonda" muyenera kuonetsetsa wa maganizo ake kwa Iye yekha, chifukwa kuyambira pamene mawu amenewa chimanenedwa, siteji AWIRI akuyamba. Bodza za chikondi - woipa kuposa si chikondi. Kukonda munthu kunena "Ine sindimakonda", pambuyo akhakulupirira ndi kukhulupirira mu chikondi, zoipa kubaya kumbuyo. Kwambiri kovuta.

Ambiri amakhulupirira kuti chitetezo cha chikondi - mabanja ndi ukwati. Mu lingaliro langa, izo ndi chotheka kuti kuonedwa linga lolimba chikhulupiriro mwa Mulungu - mpingo. Chikondi ndi chikhulupiriro chenicheni, ayenera kubwera kwa moyo. Kuchokera pansi pa mtima. Sikutheka kuti kuphatikiza kugonana mogwirizana banja ndi chikondi m'banja. tsankho Monogamy zimapezeka. mabanja ambiri mgwirizano wa chikondi pa siteji. Ndipo Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti si anthu ambiri amene Angakugonjetseni gawo kusintha kukhala mu chikondi ndi chikondi. Kuzindikira phindu kwa mzake, ndi kuzindikira chikondi ndi chibaba cha munthu, kuzindikira chakuti ndi munthu amene mungathe (ndipo ayenera) moyo wawo wonse - mmodzi wa zolimbikitsa ochepa ukwati. Ndipo sali kugwa m'chikondi.

Funso la chikondi n'zovuta kukambirana, chifukwa aliyense amakhala mosiyana. Ine sindikuyesera kuti munthu kuuzira maganizo anu. Koma ngati nkhani yanga adzapanga inu amaganiza ndiponso zimene udzachite - ndidzakhala wokondwa kwambiri. Akapitirize ...